cuffs.allister
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Interesting read. Like her reaction to you not inviting her to the party. Looking forward to more result.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Good question Leopold and im excited to answer it.Leopold said:wait? Im kind of confused..
Isn't pull the actions that indicates to her that you are attracted to her?
And push is to create this paradox on her mind to make her wonder if you really like her or not? Doesn't this helps in making her chase for you?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Great question. As we all know 9.5's are the confident ones, usually unphased by change the society is trying to implement. You will see them progress while the 7's regress. Usually the 7's confidence comes from the "nice guys" or their friends, while the 9+ come from self worth and beauty, and they know it. While if you ever find a 9.5 who acts like a 7 (Which is EXTREMELY rare), she has a couple of issues I would suspect that need to be investigated. Confident women need to be dealt with confidence, while the lesser ones who know they are lesser have more issues and are more emotionally unstable. They need to be dealt with care, as they do have issues.ShiftyShaun said:Awesome stuff, fun to read too.
Just one question. If, hypothetically speaking, you make the rare find of a girl who is a 9.5, but acts like she's a 7, do you approach the situation in the same way? And before anyone tells me "it's an act", although unlikely, there are super hotties out there who are confident, but at the same time humble and down-to-earth.
Thoughts
Of course not, she's still a hot babe, that's just how she reacts. I know i'm dating a 9.5 and so does everyone else in our social circle. However i'm getting bored of her, and looking to end things soon.cuffs.allister said:Okay so, when you met her, she was a 9.5. Is she still a 9.5 or did her value go down based on her reactions to your actions of indifference?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Because it's different than what other men do. Good job.Alex DeLarge said:I really don't get why women like this sh1t haha.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Good to hear. I'm posting this for you guys.Kenny Powers said:dude this thread is amazing and you identified and played those shiit tests perfectly!!!!!!!! Keep us updated, im really learning a lot
I dont know how my behavior defines HPD or BPD.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Pvssy is not worth acting like a HPD/BPD psychopath.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.