"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Pursue or Don't Bother?

Leporello

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About a week ago I was contacted by an HB7 on an online site reccomending we get together for dinner and chat. I messaged back that it was cool and that we should meet on saturday. Yesterday night I got this message:

Hey Leporello,

I would really love to hang out but this weekend is looking a bit rough. Would you mind if we pshed it back a bit? Can you contact me when things are a bit clearer, at the beggining of next month?

Best,
XXXXXXX

That's the sum total of our interactions. Should I message her again in a couple of weeks or is this just solid flaking?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Leporello

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DJDamage said:
[size=+2] NEXT!!!! [/size]
I suppose typing a sentence couldn't cause too much damage.
 

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Here is what Gangster of Love told me to say in a similar situation. Good advice

"I understand. How will you make it up to me?"

Dont write anything else.
 

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LOL

I'd say it's too vague to tell. Keep her on the side as a prospect while you search out other chicks. Don't put too much thought into nothing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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baurman

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There should be a damn good reason why she's flaking if she was very interested in you. So just give it one more shot and if she flakes, then next.
 

DonJuan11

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Leporello said:
About a week ago I was contacted by an HB7 on an online site reccomending we get together for dinner and chat. I messaged back that it was cool and that we should meet on saturday. Yesterday night I got this message:

Hey Leporello,

I would really love to hang out but this weekend is looking a bit rough. Would you mind if we pshed it back a bit? Can you contact me when things are a bit clearer, at the beggining of next month?

Best,
XXXXXXX

That's the sum total of our interactions. Should I message her again in a couple of weeks or is this just solid flaking?
No good bro. Unless she is working 24-7 I'm sure she could spare 2 hours for a dinner with you. If you had a first date with (Angelina Jolie), would you text her a message like that?
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Dear Angelina,

I can't do it this weekend because things are a bit rough. Can you contact me when you aren't so voluptuous and sexy?

Best,
Leporello
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DJDamage

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Leporello said:
I suppose typing a sentence couldn't cause too much damage.
Alright you want me to break down for you?!

This girl contacted you and said she wants to meet you and then all of the sudden:

1) She is too busy
2) she wants to push it back for next month?! why on earth she was contacting you if she doesn't have time for you?!

Here are two types of scenerios:

1) She is the type that is an Attention Wh0re. Some of those chicks have nothing better to do then come online and string guys along so her own ego can be inflated. No chick is ever that busy not to take a couple of hours out of her day to meet someone, she has to eat too! You are not a priority! If you were then you would be going on that date.


2) She met someone else and bumping you out of the rotation which means you are the backup for next month.

Do not put any effort into this girl. There are plenty of other girls who are available to go out with you TODAY AND NOT NEXT MONTH.
 
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