Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pursue or Don't Bother?

Leporello

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About a week ago I was contacted by an HB7 on an online site reccomending we get together for dinner and chat. I messaged back that it was cool and that we should meet on saturday. Yesterday night I got this message:

Hey Leporello,

I would really love to hang out but this weekend is looking a bit rough. Would you mind if we pshed it back a bit? Can you contact me when things are a bit clearer, at the beggining of next month?

Best,
XXXXXXX

That's the sum total of our interactions. Should I message her again in a couple of weeks or is this just solid flaking?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Leporello

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DJDamage said:
[size=+2] NEXT!!!! [/size]
I suppose typing a sentence couldn't cause too much damage.
 

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Here is what Gangster of Love told me to say in a similar situation. Good advice

"I understand. How will you make it up to me?"

Dont write anything else.
 

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LOL

I'd say it's too vague to tell. Keep her on the side as a prospect while you search out other chicks. Don't put too much thought into nothing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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baurman

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There should be a damn good reason why she's flaking if she was very interested in you. So just give it one more shot and if she flakes, then next.
 

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Leporello said:
About a week ago I was contacted by an HB7 on an online site reccomending we get together for dinner and chat. I messaged back that it was cool and that we should meet on saturday. Yesterday night I got this message:

Hey Leporello,

I would really love to hang out but this weekend is looking a bit rough. Would you mind if we pshed it back a bit? Can you contact me when things are a bit clearer, at the beggining of next month?

Best,
XXXXXXX

That's the sum total of our interactions. Should I message her again in a couple of weeks or is this just solid flaking?
No good bro. Unless she is working 24-7 I'm sure she could spare 2 hours for a dinner with you. If you had a first date with (Angelina Jolie), would you text her a message like that?
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Dear Angelina,

I can't do it this weekend because things are a bit rough. Can you contact me when you aren't so voluptuous and sexy?

Best,
Leporello
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DJDamage

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Leporello said:
I suppose typing a sentence couldn't cause too much damage.
Alright you want me to break down for you?!

This girl contacted you and said she wants to meet you and then all of the sudden:

1) She is too busy
2) she wants to push it back for next month?! why on earth she was contacting you if she doesn't have time for you?!

Here are two types of scenerios:

1) She is the type that is an Attention Wh0re. Some of those chicks have nothing better to do then come online and string guys along so her own ego can be inflated. No chick is ever that busy not to take a couple of hours out of her day to meet someone, she has to eat too! You are not a priority! If you were then you would be going on that date.


2) She met someone else and bumping you out of the rotation which means you are the backup for next month.

Do not put any effort into this girl. There are plenty of other girls who are available to go out with you TODAY AND NOT NEXT MONTH.
 
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