Purposely date bombing

[flowtheory]

Has anyone here gone on a date and purposefully just NOT given one iota of a sh!t and been really successful because of it?

I ask because generally men care TOO much, however this care generally puts them in nice guy or boring territory.

Of course not being rude to the woman herself or putting her down, burping and being gross, but just the complete opposite of how one would generally behaves on a date - no smooth lines in mind, just pure banter, loaded wit, no fuks given, going for kisses whenever, touching a lot, could legit walk away at any second, no ‘great guy’ facade or watching what you say (within reason of course). And all of this could perhaps come off as messy, however it would also be quite spontaneous, fun, for both people.

Could be an interesting experiment if ones never tried it, just to shift the paradigm in ones mind. As acting with no fuks would essentially be abundant mindset to a bit of a more ‘extreme’

I once worked with an older guy (45) and he just did not care at all about what he said or approaching people; it’s like his brain was defective in having inhibitions. And he was honestly the most freeing and fun person I’ve worked with. Maybe this would make the woman feel the same?

 

[marmel75]

I got to the point where I pretty mucb had a cookie cutter approach that worked well for me.

First dates followed the same pattern.

Same bar that was a cool place, nice vibe, dimly lit with big booths.

Start invading their space within the first 5 minutes of meeting...notice something about them and grab it...their ring, bracelet, watch, necklace, nails...and make a comment about it or ask "whats the story behind that?". Then continue holding it while they explain(ie, their hand, necklace, etc). You do it like its all no big deal and part of normal conversation.

Lean back, relax and have open body posture...keep it light and fun and ask them about fun stuff like what their favorite ice cream flavor is and then tell them about the psychology behind what it means about them, of they could travel anywhere in the world where would they go and why, and just general stuff like that...

Continue making incursions into their space and using Kino.

After first drink finishes challenge them to a game of darts and make a bet on best 2 of 3 games and loser gets the next drink. This gives lots of opportunities for touch, proximity, flirting etc...

After darts get drink...if she loses she pays AND gets the drinks while I go sit back at the booth. This is important, you arent her waiter she cant give you the money to get the drinks. A lot will try...laugh it off and be like nope, you pay and you get the drinks.
This is a minor sh!t test you just passed.

Once back at the booth they would normally be sitting much closer and continue with escalation whcih usually led to kissing and makeouts and sometimes her grabbing my c0ck and me rubbing their pvssy through their jeans.

After we finish the drinks say lets get out of here and then go for the kill. Sometimes I'd bang that night, majority would be more makeput sesions thay would get really hot and leave them wanting more and sending texts about how much they enjoyed meeting me and how much they look forward to getting together again...

The first thing I did after a first date? Set up at least 2 more dates with new women before going out with her again no matter how well it went. This makes sure you are in the right mindset and have other women to focus attention on rather than making the mistake most guys do and basically drop all the other women as soon as they meet one they like...big mistake.

In short, be relaxed, be calm, be bold and act like you always do stuff like that...i used to get asked by a lot of women "Do you always do this on first dates?" And I'd just smirk and say "depends on the date..." And they'd usually tell me that I seem like a "bad boy" type...thats when i knew I had them and I'd be banging them at some point...they wouldn't be able to stop thinking of me in the days to come.

 

[ohrein]

I basically did date without really caring. I think ridding yourself of outcome dependence and just being present at each date is a great way to do it. I didn't run a script, I didn't escalate for the sake of progress, I didn't try to impress any women. I just tried to have fun, whether that's banter or a good conversation or stories. Had quite a few women try to bang me first date that I wasn't really interested in. Always got messages the following day saying they had a great time and couldn't wait to see me again. I treated dates as a way to find out if a woman was up to my standards. I screened hard before agreeing to meet. I enjoyed almost all of my dates with that mindset, it's fun just being out and meeting people with the potential for something more.