"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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disfunktional

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Hi,

I've been reading David Deida's "Way of the superior man". In the book he speaks about the importance of having a "purpose", which got me thinking about my life. I enjoy my job/career and I have a bunch of hobbies I also enjoy. I also like where I live and how I live my life. There is not a lot that I don't like about my life, but I don't feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I am just living.

Does anyone feel like they have a purpose? If so what is it? And is it really that important to have a purpose in life?

Later,

df
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Drum&Bass

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I'm an illustrator, my purpose is to create art..if I didn't have a purpose I would be unhappy..Happiness is the most important thing to me and makes me want to live.

I need purpose to WANT to live.
Purpose will keep me motivated for the rest of my life

Wanting to live happily means I have to think about Long Term Factors.
Working out, having a sound mind, constantly improving my psychology and character contribute, enhance and expand my (art/purpose) which in turn increases and keeps my happiness/life consistent.
 

Cruise

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The Purpose in my life is reproducing. Life to me is sex. But to reproduce in all areas - my mindset, my finances (investing), reproducing inspiration, reproducing leaders and passionate individuals. To me, every day is a question of how much can I throw my passion into life. And how many people can I inspire by doing so.
 

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disfunktional said:
Hi,

I've been reading David Deida's "Way of the superior man". In the book he speaks about the importance of having a "purpose", which got me thinking about my life. I enjoy my job/career and I have a bunch of hobbies I also enjoy. I also like where I live and how I live my life. There is not a lot that I don't like about my life, but I don't feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I am just living.

Does anyone feel like they have a purpose? If so what is it? And is it really that important to have a purpose in life?

Later,

df
You like how you are living now. However, what about your future?

Split your future into four parts.

NEAR TERM (e.g. anything less than 12-18 months)
MID TERM (e.g. 3-5 years)
LONG TERM (e.g. anything over 5 years)
"RETIREMENT" (e.g. anything after retirement age)

Then list your most important goals in the issues that truly matter (e.g. health, fitness, salary, career, relationship, perhaps education, etc.). Try to pick the goals that might have direct/indirect impact toward other goals...for example a career can also have an impact to your salary and hobbies and even relationship. Education can have an impact to your career. And so on.

Then determine where you want to be within the NEAR TERM, MID TERM, LONG TERM, and "RETIREMENT". Typically, "long term" and "retirement" are very dynamic in nature and only serve as to give you an idea. However, the NEAR TERM and MID TERM goals are very important...and if for example you choose your career as one of the most important things...then you might want to start thinking where do you want to be in 3-5 years. And then come with strategies on how to get there and you do that by making those strategies "NEAR TERM" goals.

For example...perhaps you want to be the Supervisor of your team in 3-5 years (MID TERM). But in order to do that, you must be involved in a particular project. Well, working that project might be your NEAR TERM goal.
 

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I identify with this feeling about purpose. I'm in a similar boat, good job, hobbies, play lots of sport, have a busy social life. I consider myself to be proactive in most areas..........but, I dont feel like my life has any real purpose or direction. I just get by, I generally succeed, but without real purpose.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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