"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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disfunktional

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Hi,

I've been reading David Deida's "Way of the superior man". In the book he speaks about the importance of having a "purpose", which got me thinking about my life. I enjoy my job/career and I have a bunch of hobbies I also enjoy. I also like where I live and how I live my life. There is not a lot that I don't like about my life, but I don't feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I am just living.

Does anyone feel like they have a purpose? If so what is it? And is it really that important to have a purpose in life?

Later,

df
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Drum&Bass

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I'm an illustrator, my purpose is to create art..if I didn't have a purpose I would be unhappy..Happiness is the most important thing to me and makes me want to live.

I need purpose to WANT to live.
Purpose will keep me motivated for the rest of my life

Wanting to live happily means I have to think about Long Term Factors.
Working out, having a sound mind, constantly improving my psychology and character contribute, enhance and expand my (art/purpose) which in turn increases and keeps my happiness/life consistent.
 

Cruise

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The Purpose in my life is reproducing. Life to me is sex. But to reproduce in all areas - my mindset, my finances (investing), reproducing inspiration, reproducing leaders and passionate individuals. To me, every day is a question of how much can I throw my passion into life. And how many people can I inspire by doing so.
 

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disfunktional said:
Hi,

I've been reading David Deida's "Way of the superior man". In the book he speaks about the importance of having a "purpose", which got me thinking about my life. I enjoy my job/career and I have a bunch of hobbies I also enjoy. I also like where I live and how I live my life. There is not a lot that I don't like about my life, but I don't feel like I have a purpose. I feel like I am just living.

Does anyone feel like they have a purpose? If so what is it? And is it really that important to have a purpose in life?

Later,

df
You like how you are living now. However, what about your future?

Split your future into four parts.

NEAR TERM (e.g. anything less than 12-18 months)
MID TERM (e.g. 3-5 years)
LONG TERM (e.g. anything over 5 years)
"RETIREMENT" (e.g. anything after retirement age)

Then list your most important goals in the issues that truly matter (e.g. health, fitness, salary, career, relationship, perhaps education, etc.). Try to pick the goals that might have direct/indirect impact toward other goals...for example a career can also have an impact to your salary and hobbies and even relationship. Education can have an impact to your career. And so on.

Then determine where you want to be within the NEAR TERM, MID TERM, LONG TERM, and "RETIREMENT". Typically, "long term" and "retirement" are very dynamic in nature and only serve as to give you an idea. However, the NEAR TERM and MID TERM goals are very important...and if for example you choose your career as one of the most important things...then you might want to start thinking where do you want to be in 3-5 years. And then come with strategies on how to get there and you do that by making those strategies "NEAR TERM" goals.

For example...perhaps you want to be the Supervisor of your team in 3-5 years (MID TERM). But in order to do that, you must be involved in a particular project. Well, working that project might be your NEAR TERM goal.
 

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I identify with this feeling about purpose. I'm in a similar boat, good job, hobbies, play lots of sport, have a busy social life. I consider myself to be proactive in most areas..........but, I dont feel like my life has any real purpose or direction. I just get by, I generally succeed, but without real purpose.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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