"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Purely a coincidence?

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
You are way over thinking this.
He figured its time to move on and date other women and leave the past in the past.

The roomate probably wants to have sex with you now that its over with your ex.
 

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You are way over thinking this.
He figured its time to move on and date other women and leave the past in the past.
I think she's asking if it's a coincidence the ex's roommate added her a week after the ex deleted her.

Eh I personally don't think so. Either way it's odd that a friend would add you period knowing that you two don't talk anymore. Also OP did it occur to you that maybe he deleted you because you have him blocked?
 

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I think she's asking if it's a coincidence the ex's roommate added her a week after the ex deleted her.

Eh I personally don't think so. Either way it's odd that a friend would add you period knowing that you two don't talk anymore. Also OP did it occur to you that maybe he deleted you because you have him blocked?
Roomate might not = frienship. The roomate probably wants to take a run at her
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Roomate might not = frienship. The roomate probably wants to take a run at her
Maybe so. That would be pretty f*cked up though.

My guess is he is expanding his Snapchat friends and it's just an extremely freaky coincidence OR your ex is regretting deleting you so now he's getting his friend to keep tabs on you.

Time will tell soon enough.
 

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
Seriously DOES ANY OF THIS MATTER!?
You are way over thinking ALL of this! What do YOU want? If you want your ex, let him know. If you want to be Snapchat friends with his friend, be friends.

Stop overthinking things, looking for subterfuge, and hidden messages,you'll drive yourself insane. If it feels good/comfortable, go for it. If not, avoid it.
Its that simple
 

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How in the world is that friendship? I would think that's the complete opposite of friendship lol.
Agreed. But it happens in this world we live in. Hence why my sentence says might not equal friendship.
 

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Agreed. But it happens in this world we live in. Hence why my sentence says might not equal friendship.
How many Bros were Bros until 1 of the girlfriend got taken by a bro (after break up or not). Single girl is open game for those hungry.

Same thing happens when your girlfriend makes a move on your ex to get back at you or test his virility you boost about.

Has you get older, passing around the girl might become common in friends group (cause friends all have common strait).

only way to know is when he ask you out. Unless, you want to make the ex jealous to get him back. Moving on is the next step

Understanding the "game" is also knowning girls mentality is the reverse of guys
 
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