"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Purely a coincidence?

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
You are way over thinking this.
He figured its time to move on and date other women and leave the past in the past.

The roomate probably wants to have sex with you now that its over with your ex.
 

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You are way over thinking this.
He figured its time to move on and date other women and leave the past in the past.
I think she's asking if it's a coincidence the ex's roommate added her a week after the ex deleted her.

Eh I personally don't think so. Either way it's odd that a friend would add you period knowing that you two don't talk anymore. Also OP did it occur to you that maybe he deleted you because you have him blocked?
 

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I think she's asking if it's a coincidence the ex's roommate added her a week after the ex deleted her.

Eh I personally don't think so. Either way it's odd that a friend would add you period knowing that you two don't talk anymore. Also OP did it occur to you that maybe he deleted you because you have him blocked?
Roomate might not = frienship. The roomate probably wants to take a run at her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Roomate might not = frienship. The roomate probably wants to take a run at her
Maybe so. That would be pretty f*cked up though.

My guess is he is expanding his Snapchat friends and it's just an extremely freaky coincidence OR your ex is regretting deleting you so now he's getting his friend to keep tabs on you.

Time will tell soon enough.
 

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Ex and I have been in no contact for a month. I have him blocked from texting and calling me. He deleted me Snapchat recently (never happened to me before so idk why he did it). Just last Tuesday I saw that he posted something so we were clearly still friends (didn't open and look at it though). I posted stuff about the election on Wednesday and I went out this weekend which I snapped about and posted a selfie today. I went to go add a new friend with his same name and that's when I realized he deleted me. So then a week later his old roommate/good friend requested me on Snapchat. I don't want to look too much into it but I feel like the timing is a little odd...

Freaky coincidence?
Seriously DOES ANY OF THIS MATTER!?
You are way over thinking ALL of this! What do YOU want? If you want your ex, let him know. If you want to be Snapchat friends with his friend, be friends.

Stop overthinking things, looking for subterfuge, and hidden messages,you'll drive yourself insane. If it feels good/comfortable, go for it. If not, avoid it.
Its that simple
 

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How in the world is that friendship? I would think that's the complete opposite of friendship lol.
Agreed. But it happens in this world we live in. Hence why my sentence says might not equal friendship.
 

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Agreed. But it happens in this world we live in. Hence why my sentence says might not equal friendship.
How many Bros were Bros until 1 of the girlfriend got taken by a bro (after break up or not). Single girl is open game for those hungry.

Same thing happens when your girlfriend makes a move on your ex to get back at you or test his virility you boost about.

Has you get older, passing around the girl might become common in friends group (cause friends all have common strait).

only way to know is when he ask you out. Unless, you want to make the ex jealous to get him back. Moving on is the next step

Understanding the "game" is also knowning girls mentality is the reverse of guys
 
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