"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Punishing her swiftly

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
 

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
 

Chev.Chelios

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First thread I saw coming on to ss

Title Made me lawl
 

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I cannot be bothered with ****ery. If she's done anything questionable, anything like crossing the line, lying, deceitful, shady, I next her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
I want to punish someone who has disappointed me. That's all. Not cheating or anything else. :)
 

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I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
The latter one, my friend.
 

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Become less available to text or talk.
Become less available for dates.
Start opening your eyes to other women and consider the possibilities. This is for your own mindset.

This isn't a one day deal. You do this subtly over a period of days or weeks.

Never ever tell her why you are doing this. Backfires and ruins the whole thing. If she is being a biatch, she will KNOW why you are doing it. She will correct her behavior, or you increase withdrawal of attention. If SHE brings up, why you haven't been available, simply say "Your behavior has me re-thinking us"
I don't want to react immediately. I want to punish her but subtly.
 

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The latter one, my friend.
If its a serious offence that requires dumping then you just dump.

'My decision is final, i no longer want a relationship with you.' No talking about it, no negotating, and you walk.
 

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Mate it's not about punishment. What the guys are trying to tell you is if it is serious you walk 0 fvcks given.

If it is serious and you want to hang around and punish her then that is just another form of you being overinvested and needy. That's an inner game problem.

If the offence is less serious then it's about behaviour modification not punishment. If it's about that then the problem is you haven't given us enough info to work with. If she's been disrespecting you out loud that's one problem if she's been sitting here fat ass on the couch eating Tim tams too much that's another problem.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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