"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Punishing her swiftly

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Roober

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
 

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
 

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First thread I saw coming on to ss

Title Made me lawl
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I cannot be bothered with ****ery. If she's done anything questionable, anything like crossing the line, lying, deceitful, shady, I next her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
I want to punish someone who has disappointed me. That's all. Not cheating or anything else. :)
 

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I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
The latter one, my friend.
 

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Become less available to text or talk.
Become less available for dates.
Start opening your eyes to other women and consider the possibilities. This is for your own mindset.

This isn't a one day deal. You do this subtly over a period of days or weeks.

Never ever tell her why you are doing this. Backfires and ruins the whole thing. If she is being a biatch, she will KNOW why you are doing it. She will correct her behavior, or you increase withdrawal of attention. If SHE brings up, why you haven't been available, simply say "Your behavior has me re-thinking us"
I don't want to react immediately. I want to punish her but subtly.
 

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The latter one, my friend.
If its a serious offence that requires dumping then you just dump.

'My decision is final, i no longer want a relationship with you.' No talking about it, no negotating, and you walk.
 

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Mate it's not about punishment. What the guys are trying to tell you is if it is serious you walk 0 fvcks given.

If it is serious and you want to hang around and punish her then that is just another form of you being overinvested and needy. That's an inner game problem.

If the offence is less serious then it's about behaviour modification not punishment. If it's about that then the problem is you haven't given us enough info to work with. If she's been disrespecting you out loud that's one problem if she's been sitting here fat ass on the couch eating Tim tams too much that's another problem.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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