"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Punishing her swiftly

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Roober

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
 

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
 

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First thread I saw coming on to ss

Title Made me lawl
 

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Friends, most of us know The Sixteen Commandments of Poon. For those who don't, here's the link: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/
My question is in the VI commandment, it is said that when she has displeased you, you've got to punish her swiftly. I want to know your experiences on how you guys punish her when she displeases you. Thanks.
I cannot be bothered with ****ery. If she's done anything questionable, anything like crossing the line, lying, deceitful, shady, I next her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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A bit more detail on what happened would be helpful? There is far too many variables to approach such a complex question.
I want to punish someone who has disappointed me. That's all. Not cheating or anything else. :)
 

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I agree with Roober, need much more detail

Is it a serious offence that needs you to Punisher her by kicking her to the curb.

Or is it she has done something immature or annoying or stupid and you just want it to stop?
The latter one, my friend.
 

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Become less available to text or talk.
Become less available for dates.
Start opening your eyes to other women and consider the possibilities. This is for your own mindset.

This isn't a one day deal. You do this subtly over a period of days or weeks.

Never ever tell her why you are doing this. Backfires and ruins the whole thing. If she is being a biatch, she will KNOW why you are doing it. She will correct her behavior, or you increase withdrawal of attention. If SHE brings up, why you haven't been available, simply say "Your behavior has me re-thinking us"
I don't want to react immediately. I want to punish her but subtly.
 

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The latter one, my friend.
If its a serious offence that requires dumping then you just dump.

'My decision is final, i no longer want a relationship with you.' No talking about it, no negotating, and you walk.
 

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Mate it's not about punishment. What the guys are trying to tell you is if it is serious you walk 0 fvcks given.

If it is serious and you want to hang around and punish her then that is just another form of you being overinvested and needy. That's an inner game problem.

If the offence is less serious then it's about behaviour modification not punishment. If it's about that then the problem is you haven't given us enough info to work with. If she's been disrespecting you out loud that's one problem if she's been sitting here fat ass on the couch eating Tim tams too much that's another problem.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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