"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pull up bar vs weights?

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Weights. There's a lot you can do with weights, but only one thing that you can do with a pullup bar.
This. Also, you don't necessarily need a bar to do pull ups - a tree branch could work just fine for those.
 

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For pullups just go to the local park in the morning and use the monkey bars ... wrap them in grip tape.

personally, Id invest in a 45lb barbell and slowly build up my collection of plates over time. you can DIY a rack for it, and buy a bench eventually.

a screw-on dumbbell and some mini plates for dumbbell work.

thats pretty much all anyone needs.
 

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thanks guys. But now I'm back in MCJROTC so I've got access to the weight room so I "have" both weights,pullup bars, and everything else I could need. Now to get in 400 calories 6 times a day :/
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Eph said:
thanks guys. But now I'm back in MCJROTC so I've got access to the weight room so I "have" both weights,pullup bars, and everything else I could need. Now to get in 400 calories 6 times a day :/
Don't bother with the 6 times a day thing unless you're an advanced bodybuilder trying to go from 5% bodyfat to 4% bodyfat pre-contest with the assistance of mountains of legal and illegal drugs.

Just get the calories in before bed and you'll be fine. Seriously.

The 6+ meals thing will steal your life and provide marginal benefit.
 
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