Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What he needs is a life.Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
PRL deserves some f*cking congratulations here.
He definately gave me some good advice with my previous ex-gf that helped me escape my oneitis!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hey at least those sexy cheerleaders should make you happy. Don't look under their skirts though.Originally posted by Jake-inator
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Not if I can help it...Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
PRL do you realise you are only 4th wyld fire is 1st haha a girl is first.
AHHH, WorkRouter (what the hell kind of name is that – bastard, you probably are unemployed, aren’t you?)Originally posted by WORKEROUTER
PRL deserves some f*cking congratulations here.
He definately gave me some good advice with my previous ex-gf that helped me escape my oneitis!
DON”T HATE – CONGRATULATE!!!!Originally posted by TheVirtualMind
What he needs is a life.
Your post was not very praiseworthy of my strenuous efforts in the last year and a half – let’s be a little more focus on me and not the pink emoticons!!Originally posted by Jake-inator
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Your Reward:
A nice walk outside the insane assylum.
If they give you trouble, just tell me and i'll bust you outta there.
Yes, I may be crazy, but at least I am consistently crazy!!!! Most crazy people are unpredictable, but I’m crazy but in a sane way!!!Originally posted by flyinshark
Hey at least those sexy cheerleaders should make you happy. Don't look under their skirts though.
As a side note, i now get the impression that your main goal on this site (and in life ?) was to be the top poster. Now, that makes me sad because i thought your goal was to help out all of us with your insightful comments
Second side note: I did a search and noticed that from your very first post you said "Say no to hors". I am amazed to see that in your 4000+ posts you kept repeating the same exact sentence without getting bored. Props to you for that!
Here's another cheerleader for your amusement only: :cheer:
Your post is not a post of adulation or praise, in fact it is comment in error – if you read my comments I said Moderators and Woman don’t count!!! And if you add up the words written by me and the insightful insight (that makes sense, right) that I’ve given, I surpass all of the Don Juans combined!!Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
PRL do you realise you are only 4th wyld fire is 1st haha a girl is first.
That wasn’t much of a congratulatory statement DJ Eternal!! :Originally posted by Eternal
Not if I can help it...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.