"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Public transport.

kandyass

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Hey all,
usually post in the Mature Man section but thought this question belonged here.

Just out of a LTR and a bit rusty on this stuff (and a lot of it is new...being a recovering AFC) but...approaching women on trains, buses etc...

...is this a no-no? Seems to me its fine if you "happen" to just sit down next to them its fine to start chatting but what if they are sitting a few seats away and you get up and sit next to them and start talking and they aren't interested or whatever...you crash and burn...what do you do then? I mean, where do you go? Do you get off at the next stop..? Personally I wouldn't, but it would be pretty bloody embarrasing...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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diplomatic_lies

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The "creep factor" depends on where you live. Here in Australia its perfectly alright. But in New York it might be a bit harder. I usually sit next to them, and strike up conversation (if you can't think of what to say, look out the window, get ideas).

Perfectly normal to feel embarrassed, I've been doing it for over a year and I still feel embarrassed when I crash and burn (usually when the woman is a wanker about it). Just move to another carriage.
 

vorbis

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was actually wondering the same thing the other day! Here in Boston I have to get the T a lot and was wondering what the deal is with regards to chatting to a girl next to you.

I've tried it a couple of times and its gone well. On one particular occasion, the girl, a HB7 was smiling and laughing and I felt I could have gone for the number. I chickened out due to it feeling weird (AFC I know). At the very least, its a way to brush up on your conversation skills.
 
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