Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
Well a few years ago i had been seeing a couple of psychologists because of anxiety problems caused by my mom who was diagnosed with Borderline personality disorder. I saw them both independently and neither of them knew each other at all. But they both told me "Your lucky that your a normal human being without any mental problems, but until you work out the issues with your mom you will never be able to have a long term satisfying relationship with a female"
Its irritating because neither of them would tell me why. They would both just be real vague. They wouldnt tell me what it is about me that would sabotage a relationship. but whats weird is so far they are right. I am 24 and i have never had a long term relationship. I want one too. Someday i want to get married. I have dated tons of girls and had some random hookups and whatever but I have never had a relationship last more than 2 months. I have dumped girls, and I have been dumped.
I think both of those psychologists got me thinking in a bad way because now i am like well if the professionals said it never will work i guess it wont and i dont know how to change it. I cant work out the mom issues either because i havent talked to her in a long time and i dont plan to.
Anyone have a similar experience or any psychologists on this board? I need a better perspective of why they would tell me these things. I probably realistically need a third professional opinion but I want to hear some ideas.
Its irritating because neither of them would tell me why. They would both just be real vague. They wouldnt tell me what it is about me that would sabotage a relationship. but whats weird is so far they are right. I am 24 and i have never had a long term relationship. I want one too. Someday i want to get married. I have dated tons of girls and had some random hookups and whatever but I have never had a relationship last more than 2 months. I have dumped girls, and I have been dumped.
I think both of those psychologists got me thinking in a bad way because now i am like well if the professionals said it never will work i guess it wont and i dont know how to change it. I cant work out the mom issues either because i havent talked to her in a long time and i dont plan to.
Anyone have a similar experience or any psychologists on this board? I need a better perspective of why they would tell me these things. I probably realistically need a third professional opinion but I want to hear some ideas.