"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oneboy21

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I need an advice on this situation from you guys

I was talking to this girl online and got her number, she told me she is spiritual and stuff, i used to call her once in a while, but she never called me on her own
when ever i call her she always answers the phone, if not she will call back soon.

she stopped by my house one day to talk to my brother about a job, i told her there are openings

later one day while talking she told me she will help me in getting some stuff, she did come up and picked me up from my house and we went there, while coming back she told me she likes this guy but not sure about things

what's this girl intention basically, i like her
how do i make her mine , is it possible
some times in feel that she is in a place to decide whom to choose for, please leave me suggestions, thanks in advance
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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oneboy21 said:
I need an advice on this situation from you guys

I was talking to this girl online and got her number, she told me she is spiritual and stuff, i used to call her once in a while, but she never called me on her own
when ever i call her she always answers the phone, if not she will call back soon.

she stopped by my house one day to talk to my brother about a job, i told her there are openings

later one day while talking she told me she will help me in getting some stuff, she did come up and picked me up from my house and we went there, while coming back she told me she likes this guy but not sure about things

what's this girl intention basically, i like her
how do i make her mine , is it possible
some times in feel that she is in a place to decide whom to choose for, please leave me suggestions, thanks in advance
Lol get out of the friend zone man. If she talking to you about another guy she "likes" then your to damn nice. If you want to get with her, well didn't you tell her to go on a date when you first called? If you didn't but just had a talk well you failed.

To try to fix this will be hard, call her and ask if she is open either saturday, or monday. If she says Monday be ike alright Monday night at 6 we are going to the Manor. Ill pick you up at 5:30 if she declines well your to much as a friend...
 

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Not to be a d***, but you've been here since 2006. This seems like the average kind of question that could be answered by reading the DJ Bible.

Nowhere in your post did you say that you were making any attempts at seducing her. You're helping her get a job. You're introducing her to your brother. She's talking to you about other guys. It sounds like you're her little brother.

You're not acting like a man, so why should she treat you like one? Are you taking her out on fun adventures? Are you acting like a confident DJ who knows how to handle a woman? Are you displaying any value at all?

Like I said, I don't know how you could be a member of the board since 2006 and not know how to find answers to this. There's no interesting angle to your situation. You're a typical guy who likes a girl and is making no SERIOUS effort to get the girl...Well, other than being totally available to her 100% of the time, which is absolutely boring her to death. Nothing new here...read the DJ Bible.
 

oneboy21

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Correct

i think you guys are correct
Thanks for suggestions, let me know if you have any good ideas
how not to get into situation like this
 

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You´ve the DJ Bible and tonnes of invaluable information here, man.
Sorry, dude, but Iceberg is right.

Wish you the best.

Take care!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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