"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Prom Dilemma

NEWBIE101

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Here's the deal...kinda long but I'll try to keep it short.

This girl on my bus begged me to go to prom. She's just friends with me (I don't want to be more than that, she probably does though). But anyways, I said that I would go with her, nonetheless. ***We'll go as friends to prom. I'll hook up with other girls over the weekend. ;)

Well, she's now expecting me to go in the limo with all of her friends since she claims that it's "girls choice" or some crap. So, I told her, "No, I'm going in a limo with my friends. You come in my limo and sit at my table for prom."

All her friends think that I should do what she wants. Well I say F that, she asked me to go and I'm paying for her ticket, the least she can do is go in the limo with me and my friends and sit at our table.

Do you all think I was wrong here?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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blienk

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You're already doing her a favor by being her date. Tell her she could do whatever the fcuk she wants, but you're going with your friends (you can phrase it more gently than that).
 

NYC Dude

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Yes, she is your date and you're paying, so why the hell should you do things you don't want to? If she doesn't want to go with your friends, then let her go with her friends by herself. She's lucky to be going with you, so let her remember that.
 

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So let me get this straight, you are paying too take a girl who y have no romantic inclinations with to the prom. Was this cos it saved you the hassle of askin someone :D.

OK, then you appear to say you are doing this as a favour, if its a favour, do what you want, she asked you for a favour, you gave it to her, why give her more.

Plus surely travellin in a limo full of teenage gals and then sitting with them would be far nicer than just chillin with your m8s who u hang with neway.
 

Oxide

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Whatever happened to her paying for something?

I've heard much bull**** about "my dress is so expensive!" well, YOU BOUGHT IT, SO DONT CRY TO ME ABOUT IT! for all i care u can wear a bikini and make it cheap.

I woudnt go in her limo by yourself. id bring a guy friend and pimp those stupid girls with him ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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icallug

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yeah man, your going as friends, why are you buying her ticket?
 

NEWBIE101

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Originally posted by icallug
yeah man, your going as friends, why are you buying her ticket?
Actually I haven't yet.

IDK, I just thought that it would be right for me to do. I have no intentions of tapping this girl though.

I'm kinda pissed I said yes though, since there's much better alternatives I could've gone with.
 
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