- On the left is the photo I showed earlier at 225 lb (mirrored as the other photo is mirrored).
- On the right is me Sunday at 215 lb (right after I ran into my ex who I hadn't seen since May).
I am 6'5".

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I am 6'5". Age 47.How tall are you
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Do you do burpees everyday? How many sets do you doMy body really started looking ripped when I started doing burpees and pull ups. I have a better body now than I did in my 20's and I used to work out in my 20's too.. but not as much as now.
Oh ok that makes sense then. I was gonna say dang man you carry 225 really good.... how much cardio do you doI am 6'5". Age 47.
I do them every other day on average. Two sets of 14-16. If I'm feeling vigorous I might do a 3rd set.Do you do burpees everyday? How many sets do you do
These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.Good work on the fat loss Neil.
Perhaps you could share your gym routine, particularly the weight lifting side of things, to see if there is any Thing you might be missing
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.
My lean muscle mass is around 190lb. Not sure how much muscle you guys think a person is supposed to have, but Tom Brady doesn't have much more.
I work out M, W, F from 6am-7am. Chest/Back/abs, Legs/Abs and Arms/Shoulders/Abs. 10 min per session cardio.
Note: Tom Brady is 6'4" 225 and 16% fat. So he has 189lb of lean muscle mass. I have close to those numbers.
http://hollywoodmeasurements.com/sports/tom-brady-height-weight-body-measurements/
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Who in their right old trains to look like Tom Brady? Why don't you aim for someone like Nigel Bradham or JJ Watt??These photos show 2 months progress, not 8 months progress.
My lean muscle mass is around 190lb. Not sure how much muscle you guys think a person is supposed to have, but Tom Brady doesn't have much more.
I work out M, W, F from 6am-7am. Chest/Back/abs, Legs/Abs and Arms/Shoulders/Abs. 10 min per session cardio.
Note: Tom Brady is 6'4" 225 and 16% fat. So he has 189lb of lean muscle mass. I have close to those numbers.
http://hollywoodmeasurements.com/sports/tom-brady-height-weight-body-measurements/
Who in their right old trains to look like Tom Brady? Why don't you aim for someone like Nigel Bradham or JJ Watt??
Exactly.You can't really do both (toning and bulking up) simultaneously so far as I know.
Yeah but secretly Giselle dreams of spending a night with Nigel Bradham and getting her pvssy destroyed by a jacked, muscular guy...Those guys tackle Tom Brady and he gets right up. And women would rate him the best looking. My ex girlfriend was from Atlanta and watched the Super Bowl with me and after he won his 5th she said "He's so handsome!"
- Tom Brady is the greatest and one of the healthiest quarterbacks of all time and is married to a supermodel. He is close to my age and follows an organic diet like I do. He's not into heavy weight lifting.
- Nigel is a 6'2" 240 linebacker. I'd need to be 260 to look like him.
- JJ Watt is my height - he is 295 lb. Absolutely an unhealthy weight. Probably did steroids. Our knees and ankles can't take that weight, not at my age.
My aim is to be healthy and strong.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.