"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gammergq

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I always feel that I am not ready to approach and that I have to learn somwthing more what should I do to combat this problem?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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AmazingTricks

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You'll learn [much] more by approaching.
 

DavenJuan

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Gammergq said:
I always feel that I am not ready to approach and that I have to learn somwthing more what should I do to combat this problem?
couple things to remember when you start feeling like this..

1. we ALL felt like that at some point or atleast most of us

2. there is ALWAYS something more to learn and get better in your game

3. the most IMPORTANT THING to remember is you ONLY get better with practice. dont put so much pressure on yourself. look at it as a numbers game. the more ppl you approach and the more ppl that turn you DOWN, the closer you are to accomplishing whatever it is you want to get out of the approach.

for me, i would ENJOY the no's sometimes. it gave me practice, something for me to get better at.

have fun, dont THINK, and just do it.

and by all means... DONT TAKE IT PERSONAL
 

MacAvoy

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We have the perfect solution for you. Its designed to get newby's comfortable with approaching and dating. It starts off small with just making eye contact and slowly escalating after that.

Its called Don Juan Boot Camp. Its the 4th option on the list, you can either view it as a PDF or a Word file.

Good luck and start reading the bible (3rd from the bottom) while your at it.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Gammergq said:
I always feel that I am not ready to approach and that I have to learn somwthing more what should I do to combat this problem?
Realize that it's not the lack of information that's holding you back, you'll never know everything. You need to learn how to feel confident that you will survive if you're not 100% successful.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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