"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Probs staying/getting hard and coming inside her

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So I had some chick over and we did **** a bunch, I came twice (albeit from her jerking me off) the first day. Next day I had trouble staying/getting hard. Also, I'd like to come inside her. She is HB7, but I don't really think the issue is with her looks and more on me on the physical/mental level.

What are some tips that can help me solve this?
- I quit porn fully 2 months ago
- I try to keep masturbation to a minimum, when I jerk off it's with lube
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Try viagra/cialis. No shame in it imo.

I'm really confused at your other comments

a) why did she jerk you off?
b) are you asking how to come inside her?
 

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Try viagra/cialis. No shame in it imo.

I'm really confused at your other comments

a) why did she jerk you off?
b) are you asking how to come inside her?
a) Because I wanted to come and this worked
b) Yes, since I currently have trouble doing just that

You watched a lot of porn didn't you
Yes I have

Did you use a condom? Sometimes I cant *** when im wearing one.
I didn't, both tested and she is on birth control


Cause you're used to porn and your hands, and the only way for to cvm is fantasizing and/or with a hand cause you're also desensitized.

When I had the vasectomy, I had to jerk off about 40 times in two months, it was the absolute worst $hit, I got used to my hands and couldn't cvm with any woman.

Stop fantasizing when you're having sex, stop masturbating, it will take some time, even you can't hold it that you need to masturbate, don't do it, the next time you feel the warm feeling of a vag you won't be able to hold it, cause now your d1ck forgot your hand.
Yes to be honest I did fantasize during sex, I'll stop doing that. Also will cut off masturbation altogether. Thanks.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So I had some chick over and we did **** a bunch, I came twice (albeit from her jerking me off) the first day. Next day I had trouble staying/getting hard. Also, I'd like to come inside her. She is HB7, but I don't really think the issue is with her looks and more on me on the physical/mental level.

What are some tips that can help me solve this?
- I quit porn fully 2 months ago
- I try to keep masturbation to a minimum, when I jerk off it's with lube
It s not all about cumming. Enjoy her company. I know it sounds womanly, but you will enjoy sex more if you actually like (connect) with the girl. Thats why the best sex is in LTRs.
Don't be goal orientated in bed. Relax. Enjoy her smell, femininity, perfume. Enjoy her body. Women LOVE foreplay. Using foreplay you will get her exited and begging for more.

I reconmmend you purchase the dvd series 2 girls teach sex aka 2GTS.
It will do wonders for youre sex life. Trust me
 

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This is at least partly mental. My head trails off, I get hot or feel claustrophobic, I don’t hardly ever nut from behind, take your pic. But it’s largely upstairs. I also take daily Cialis after a couple bad issues last summer. Definitely helped. I had a vasectomy in 2020, it’s not supposed to make anything different but I can’t point to any reason otherwise why there would be a slightly smaller form to the right nut. I take Tongkat Ali now (was insane libido boost the first month, has dropped dramatically) and literally just got Fadogia, looking forward to that combo (Andrew huberman method).

I also like the idea of developing a personal bond. In my 20’s I didn’t care who, what, why I was that horny. Now it’s like totally different and head game matters. But it matters A LOT less with a good libido,so keep your hormones right

also, stop whacking off, cut the porn, and just enjoy the moment when you’re doing the real thing. Keep your body in good shape too.
 

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Sildenafil and Tadalafil are vasodilatadors, which means it makes your veins and capillaries permeable allowing for more interstitial fluid leakage from the bloodstream, you can often see it’s effects in the tissues you get ruddy skin and a flushed complexion.

They can be used to treat high blood pressures as well, but you have to be careful using them when you’re on other meds as they can dangerously drop your blood pressure.

The leg pain is most likely from interstitial edema, it should fade after your liver and kidneys clear the drug from your system.

This is at least partly mental. My head trails off, I get hot or feel claustrophobic, I don’t hardly ever nut from behind, take your pic. But it’s largely upstairs. I also take daily Cialis after a couple bad issues last summer. Definitely helped. I had a vasectomy in 2020, it’s not supposed to make anything different but I can’t point to any reason otherwise why there would be a slightly smaller form to the right nut. I take Tongkat Ali now (was insane libido boost the first month, has dropped dramatically) and literally just got Fadogia, looking forward to that combo (Andrew huberman method).

I also like the idea of developing a personal bond. In my 20’s I didn’t care who, what, why I was that horny. Now it’s like totally different and head game matters. But it matters A LOT less with a good libido,so keep your hormones right

also, stop whacking off, cut the porn, and just enjoy the moment when you’re doing the real thing. Keep your body in good shape too.
 

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Sildenafil and Tadalafil are vasodilatadors, which means it makes your veins and capillaries permeable allowing for more interstitial fluid leakage from the bloodstream, you can often see it’s effects in the tissues you get ruddy skin and a flushed complexion.

They can be used to treat high blood pressures as well, but you have to be careful using them when you’re on other meds as they can dangerously drop your blood pressure.

The leg pain is most likely from interstitial edema, it should fade after your liver and kidneys clear the drug from your system.
Word kid
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Someone told me that Viagra has a nasty side effect, he had muscle pain all over his body for two days. Don't know if this is common, but I wouldn't start popping pills until all other avenues have been explored.
Cialis and viagra can definitely both cause really bad muscle pains if you take too much. The best solution is to take small, daily doses of cialis, since it has a long half life and you can reach a "steady state" concentration in your system if you do it this way, while minimizing side effects. Viagra, since it's short acting, can cause unpleasant and strange side effects since it comes on much stronger and quicker.
 
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