Hi,
It's about a year now that I discovered this site. In the beginning it was mostly reading and than try to take the theorie in action.
I can say that I learn't a lot and still learning. I came a long way ( much longer than I possible could imagine! ) I had absolutely no idea things were as bad as they were ... and still are, but I see some lights shining through a very long and dark path.
Finding out that conditions were worse than even thought possible make me thing about it how it could ever get as worse as it was.
I remember when I was a little boy, I got lots of friends but then we moved, other village, other school but because of the distance I lost all of my friends.
It took me several years till I get myself some new good friends ( about the age of 16 ). Now I have lots of friends, but they are all very bad with woman.
examples :
friend #1: Knows lots of woman, but they are all lesbian or commited. He is not afraid of talking strange girls, but is to explicit in my opinion. He mostly insults them without even being aware of it. He hasn't kissed a girl yet ( age : 23 )
friend #2: He is very shy. Loves going out and often girls hit on him but he always blews it or sends them away. He has comment on every girl. ( She has a big but, breasts are too small, she is not beautifull enough, ... ) He never starts to talk to a strange girl and also won't do so if we go out togheter and there are two girls standing alone and I start to talk to one of them...
Never has had a relationship ( age : 24 )
friend #3: Works in the weekends and is free during the week.
He won't start to talk to a strange girl on a street or in a club. He is someone who meets girls from the internet, meets them just for s*x
Never has had a relationship, only s*xdates ( age : 24 )
group of new friends ( friends that I met this year, there's 4 of them ). They go out very often, but always in the corner of the club, drinking ( too ) many beers, but hardly dance or talking to a girl. Last friday there was a girl who want to know one of them a little better
and she let a friend of her asks him, but he didn't do a thing, even not go over and talk to her ( she was nice looking, not only my opinion but also his, but he never did a thing ) 2 of them has never had a relationship ( age : 22 and 27 )
1 is involved in a relationship with a Polish student and the other has broken up a year ago.
This are some examples, but the rest is somewhat the same. Basically not talking to girls, they are all afraid. When I want to go over and talk to a girl, I am always on my own and that's always somewhat embarrasing as the girls sometimes asks me if my friends are too afraid. You see, I have the feeling as they don't see me as the bravest but as the less scared.
Any suggestions? Because of my age ( almost 25 ) it is difficult to find quick new friends of my age who also wants and dare to attrack woman. Should I try on my own sometimes and go out without friends?
Sincerely
It's about a year now that I discovered this site. In the beginning it was mostly reading and than try to take the theorie in action.
I can say that I learn't a lot and still learning. I came a long way ( much longer than I possible could imagine! ) I had absolutely no idea things were as bad as they were ... and still are, but I see some lights shining through a very long and dark path.
Finding out that conditions were worse than even thought possible make me thing about it how it could ever get as worse as it was.
I remember when I was a little boy, I got lots of friends but then we moved, other village, other school but because of the distance I lost all of my friends.
It took me several years till I get myself some new good friends ( about the age of 16 ). Now I have lots of friends, but they are all very bad with woman.
examples :
friend #1: Knows lots of woman, but they are all lesbian or commited. He is not afraid of talking strange girls, but is to explicit in my opinion. He mostly insults them without even being aware of it. He hasn't kissed a girl yet ( age : 23 )
friend #2: He is very shy. Loves going out and often girls hit on him but he always blews it or sends them away. He has comment on every girl. ( She has a big but, breasts are too small, she is not beautifull enough, ... ) He never starts to talk to a strange girl and also won't do so if we go out togheter and there are two girls standing alone and I start to talk to one of them...
Never has had a relationship ( age : 24 )
friend #3: Works in the weekends and is free during the week.
He won't start to talk to a strange girl on a street or in a club. He is someone who meets girls from the internet, meets them just for s*x
Never has had a relationship, only s*xdates ( age : 24 )
group of new friends ( friends that I met this year, there's 4 of them ). They go out very often, but always in the corner of the club, drinking ( too ) many beers, but hardly dance or talking to a girl. Last friday there was a girl who want to know one of them a little better
and she let a friend of her asks him, but he didn't do a thing, even not go over and talk to her ( she was nice looking, not only my opinion but also his, but he never did a thing ) 2 of them has never had a relationship ( age : 22 and 27 )1 is involved in a relationship with a Polish student and the other has broken up a year ago.
This are some examples, but the rest is somewhat the same. Basically not talking to girls, they are all afraid. When I want to go over and talk to a girl, I am always on my own and that's always somewhat embarrasing as the girls sometimes asks me if my friends are too afraid. You see, I have the feeling as they don't see me as the bravest but as the less scared.
Any suggestions? Because of my age ( almost 25 ) it is difficult to find quick new friends of my age who also wants and dare to attrack woman. Should I try on my own sometimes and go out without friends?
Sincerely
