"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Problems with asking there number

rushing dude 123

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 13, 2006
Messages
930
Reaction score
19
Location
London
right i have asked a lot of girls for there numbers, but i came to realise i have a serious problem, even if i get a serious lot of ioi's from the girl. When i seem to close most of the time it kinda jus comes out wrong, like i am reading something out and not natural and no matter how many times i have done it, it still comes out that way. Usually the reactions is either a, i don't get number or 2 i argue my way through and end up getting number. When i do get my numbers though no questions asked, it is very natural, it is not what i say its more how i say it. If i am confident and ask i will get it, but sometimes i think how to ask it and then it usually comes out a bit uncofident.

So would u guys know any way i could solve this, it would seriously help my game a lot.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

ProDJ26

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 25, 2006
Messages
751
Reaction score
31
Don't think too hard and beat yourself up. Just know that your doing half of what everybody should be doing. And thats getting phone numbers and rejections from the real world. You said it yourself. it's more of how you say it. You already gotten numbers before and you know you can get more. So tell your inner critic to shut the heck up.

:up:
 

rushing dude 123

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 13, 2006
Messages
930
Reaction score
19
Location
London
guys i asked a girls number today after i talked to her for like 30 minutes and then she said giv me ur number, knowing this is a sign of flaking i had to convince her to giv me her number for 14 minutes.....now i am doing something seriously long. Also trust me its not the IL because i got her to run through a fountain lol and from phone talk later, it showed she had high IL in my opinion.

I need help on this guys, i jus want quick closes its jus annoying having to go through that process.
 

Prodigy746

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2007
Messages
696
Reaction score
14
I felt like i had the same problem so
One thing that helped me out is....

when i was alone in the house one day i just repedetly kept saying.

"Hey Let me get your number and will hang out sometime"
Let me get your number and ill give you a call some time"
"You seem like a cool girl, let me get your number and maybe we can hang out sometime.

"Wats your number, ill give you a call sometime"
I changed it up because after 20 -30 times i was sick of saying the same thing.
Also make sure you say it out loud like you would normally say it...it doesnt work if you say it in your head. Word have to come out. One thing you should notice is that after 30th time it should sound better ... more natural.

I even went in front of a mirror and did it.

Now i am not gonna lie, it felt weird as hell talking to my self but i didnt care because i was alone in the house and nobody knew about it. Now when i ask for a number it comes out naturally like i been saying it forever. Its kind like saying to a friend "Whats up"..you have no problem with that because you have said it so much that you are used to it. Trust me, try it ...it works

Might be weird but it works.
 

619joe

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2008
Messages
301
Reaction score
6
Prodigy nailed it.I use that line it works like a charm.

On my first ever number close from cold approach,the girl had asked me "How about you give me your number?"

I knew she was interested and saw this as a test andsaid

"Nope.Thats not how it works.The way it works is we EXCHANGE numbers"

she then said "Thats too bad then" to which I said "Well that is too bad" and I started walking away...

She looks back at me again and says "Ok fine my number is ---".It was a real number too though btw so use my line next time you get caught up like that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top