I have been living with my "main" girlfriend for a while now. I am not totally convinced that she is the one yet so I still never turn down opportunities to meet new women and most of the time I will explain my situation when I meet new girls. You'd be surprised how many girls take it as a challenge to try and take a man away from his woman. Anyway, I met this hb9 a few months ago Initially it it started off slow we hung out more as friends, then one day we ended up sleeping together. I was honest with this girl that I was living with someone else she wasn't really cool with being my #2 but eventually she caved in. Around the time I started having sex with this new girl I started having problems with my live in girl and we separated for a bit but she ended up coming back after about a month. In that time I started spending a lot more time with the new girl and started to fall for her. I didn't tell her that my old girl had returned home though. So this past week we had our first fight because I didn't remember to call and say goodnight to her. I felt she was being to needy and told her I wasn't to happy about that. She took this really personally and wouldn't talk to me for 3 days. We finally spoke yesterday I tried to apologize for upsetting her but she has decided that it's not going to work because she is an emotional, needy girl and it's not fair to me. Normally I would be greatful that I didn't have to be the badguy and end things. But I don't know if it's my ego not letting me accept the fact that I got dumped or I actually have genuine feelings for this girl. I can't stop thinking about her and I send her text messages all the time so I can have a face to face conversation with her. She refuses because she says it will be too painful. I also admitted that my live in girlfriend has returned home and she started crying and calling herself a "homewrecker" I mean this girl knew what she was getting into when she got involved with me, why the sudden change of feelings? Should I just let this one go or is there any reason or hope of salvaging this mess. I know what goes around comes around and a lot of guys will laugh and say that the player got a taste of his own medicine, but lets be real 90% of men are only as faithful as their options! If you can have your cake and eat it too, why not?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Problems of juggling 2 women
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
Why are you shacking up with women you're not married to? How old are you? What do you do for a living? - Strike 1.
You call to say good night? You apologized after telling her not to be needy? You text her more than twice a day?
No, a smart player never has anything come back around to bite him, because he's smart. I really hope you use condoms religiously. Are you looking to get laid? Or just be a pseudo-player?
Stop giving them b1tches so much attention, thats what they want, and why would you want to salvage anything you call a "mess?"
And please, learn to space out your body of text, its a pain to read.
You call to say good night? You apologized after telling her not to be needy? You text her more than twice a day?
No, a smart player never has anything come back around to bite him, because he's smart. I really hope you use condoms religiously. Are you looking to get laid? Or just be a pseudo-player?
Stop giving them b1tches so much attention, thats what they want, and why would you want to salvage anything you call a "mess?"
And please, learn to space out your body of text, its a pain to read.
Cheating on your girlfriend is not cool, unless she knows that you are and will continue to sleep around on her, and sticks around. Your rationale is laughable at best.
I definitely agree with Flex, why live with a girl you're not serious about? I don't see how you can support that thought process.
Anyway, as to your question, you've left out a lot of pretty important details, but my guess is that it will come back to cheating on the girl you live with. The second girl probably realized that she'd be dumb to keep up relations with you. If you want to follow what the DJ bible would tell you, it's that you should stop calling her and see if she keeps up contact (which I'm guessing will be no).
I definitely agree with Flex, why live with a girl you're not serious about? I don't see how you can support that thought process.
Anyway, as to your question, you've left out a lot of pretty important details, but my guess is that it will come back to cheating on the girl you live with. The second girl probably realized that she'd be dumb to keep up relations with you. If you want to follow what the DJ bible would tell you, it's that you should stop calling her and see if she keeps up contact (which I'm guessing will be no).
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.