"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Problems lasting long lately

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So as some know I'm a month out of a 3 month relationship and since then have nailed 4 new girls. The first time I had sex with the long term girl it was long and she came I didn't feel like I even had to. The next girl after her the same.

So my last three (one last Thursday, she was about a 6) I came really early. I couldn't help it and thought it was probably a fluke. It wasn't.

So I pulled a brand new one and I'm talking she's a hard 8 but probably more like a 9 and we went out twice and I banged her about an hour ago. At first I couldn't get hard, she kept playing with it and we got lube and it finally happen and then I came like 1 minute into it :/ what the hell is wrong with me latley? I've never had this problem. My exercise habits haven't changed or my diet. Maybe there was too much work up to this new girl or the fact that she was smoking hot and it took like 45 minutes of fooling around on the bed for it to happen.

Thoughts gentlemen? Positive outlook on this is I was really down at the beginning of November and I'm back in the game very much so this last girl being hotter them my long term ex makes me not even think about her, but the short sex is not going to help keep these plates around.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MattR1984 said:
So as some know I'm a month out of a 3 month relationship and since then have nailed 4 new girls. The first time I had sex with the long term girl it was long and she came I didn't feel like I even had to. The next girl after her the same.

So my last three (one last Thursday, she was about a 6) I came really early. I couldn't help it and thought it was probably a fluke. It wasn't.

So I pulled a brand new one and I'm talking she's a hard 8 but probably more like a 9 and we went out twice and I banged her about an hour ago. At first I couldn't get hard, she kept playing with it and we got lube and it finally happen and then I came like 1 minute into it :/ what the hell is wrong with me latley? I've never had this problem. My exercise habits haven't changed or my diet. Maybe there was too much work up to this new girl or the fact that she was smoking hot and it took like 45 minutes of fooling around on the bed for it to happen.

Thoughts gentlemen? Positive outlook on this is I was really down at the beginning of November and I'm back in the game very much so this last girl being hotter them my long term ex makes me not even think about her, but the short sex is not going to help keep these plates around.
Blowing early is often just lack of control. Control your breathing and don't think about what your d1ck feels like. That tends to just heighten the sensation.

The flaccid problem is no doubt nervousness because you're with someone new and she is smoking.
 

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Stop wacking off - pop a d!ck pill from the gas station. Happens to me every once in a while - especially when I DONT feel like banging.
 

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MattR1984 said:
So as some know I'm a month out of a 3 month relationship and since then have nailed 4 new girls. The first time I had sex with the long term girl it was long and she came I didn't feel like I even had to. The next girl after her the same.

So my last three (one last Thursday, she was about a 6) I came really early. I couldn't help it and thought it was probably a fluke. It wasn't.

So I pulled a brand new one and I'm talking she's a hard 8 but probably more like a 9 and we went out twice and I banged her about an hour ago. At first I couldn't get hard, she kept playing with it and we got lube and it finally happen and then I came like 1 minute into it :/ what the hell is wrong with me latley? I've never had this problem. My exercise habits haven't changed or my diet. Maybe there was too much work up to this new girl or the fact that she was smoking hot and it took like 45 minutes of fooling around on the bed for it to happen.

Thoughts gentlemen? Positive outlook on this is I was really down at the beginning of November and I'm back in the game very much so this last girl being hotter them my long term ex makes me not even think about her, but the short sex is not going to help keep these plates around.


No sh!t I can advice you in your own problems, it's like I'm inside your head. All I can do is tell you what I learned about myself.

Sex is inside your head, if you cvm early it's not d!ck problem it's the way your head works. I stole my uncle's wife and fvcked her, at first I couldn't even cvm while she came several times and got all tired and sh!t. Then as time went by and I developed feelings for that girl I started to cvm real quick. I looked back into my past and realized that I cvm quick when I care for a girl. When I don't give a sh!t and she's just a fling I last. :flowers:

Here is a conundrum, I need to care for a person to feel complete, but then I don't satisfy her and my actions push her away. I'm yet to solve this thing, cuz when I'm alone I'm empty.
 

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She hit me up an hour ago and wants to eat lunch so I guess it wasn't a total deal breaker haha! Whatever. I'll try not to think about anything and keep a clear head next time. This has happened to me before months back but it was because I took Adderall before going to the bar. Man I wish I had a viagra hook up! Anyone in the Austin TX area hahaha
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MattR1984 said:
She hit me up an hour ago and wants to eat lunch so I guess it wasn't a total deal breaker haha! Whatever. I'll try not to think about anything and keep a clear head next time. This has happened to me before months back but it was because I took Adderall before going to the bar. Man I wish I had a viagra hook up! Anyone in the Austin TX area hahaha
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