"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Problems at work.

crossboss

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I am just not getting along with people at work. People who I work with have been complaining. I'd rather not quit, since I have been working there for 3 years. I used to be a good employee, what should I do?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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blinkwatt

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crossboss said:
I am just not getting along with people at work. People who I work with have been complaining. I'd rather not quit, since I have been working there for 3 years. I used to be a good employee, what should I do?
Everything is what you make of it,ignore everything and you'll be fine.
 

Play the Game

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Well before we give any advice... What are they complaining about exactly?

Just ignoring the problem doesn't always make it go away.
 

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Whatever you do, try not to hold grudges or try to 'get anyone back' so to speak. It will only make things worse. If anything, be more compassionate and try to be more helpful. If not, at least ignore them. It's really hard to give advice though because you don't really go into detail with what you are having problems with.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks for the advice.

I think things should go okay, hopefully. One of the girl that complains is quitting. The manager, I think I got along with okay today. I'm mostly working with new people for now, so I can avoid the bad ones.
 

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F*ck that! If you don't like where you work or don't enjoy your job, then quietly start finding a new job. Unless you know how to make massive amounts of money in a short period of time, you'll be working for quite some time. It's a lot more plesant working in an eviroment that you enjoy.
 
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