"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Problems at work.

crossboss

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I am just not getting along with people at work. People who I work with have been complaining. I'd rather not quit, since I have been working there for 3 years. I used to be a good employee, what should I do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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crossboss said:
I am just not getting along with people at work. People who I work with have been complaining. I'd rather not quit, since I have been working there for 3 years. I used to be a good employee, what should I do?
Everything is what you make of it,ignore everything and you'll be fine.
 

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Well before we give any advice... What are they complaining about exactly?

Just ignoring the problem doesn't always make it go away.
 

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Whatever you do, try not to hold grudges or try to 'get anyone back' so to speak. It will only make things worse. If anything, be more compassionate and try to be more helpful. If not, at least ignore them. It's really hard to give advice though because you don't really go into detail with what you are having problems with.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Thanks for the advice.

I think things should go okay, hopefully. One of the girl that complains is quitting. The manager, I think I got along with okay today. I'm mostly working with new people for now, so I can avoid the bad ones.
 

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F*ck that! If you don't like where you work or don't enjoy your job, then quietly start finding a new job. Unless you know how to make massive amounts of money in a short period of time, you'll be working for quite some time. It's a lot more plesant working in an eviroment that you enjoy.
 
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