"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wiseman

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I had been with this girl for a long time on and off she broke my heart i went trough a couple of phases after the last break up.
such as, sadness, feeling worthless, couldn't thing, straight etc.
Now out of the blue I'm thinking about her and i miss her and is like if i wan to go back it's driving me crazy
please help
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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this phase will pass.
its the "wanting them back " phase.
dont let it get you down, just bear with it knowing it will pass.

go occupy yourself with other things.
hobbies, new chicks, anything else ok
 

wiseman

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is not that easy i tried it when i have nothing to do it comes back
 

penkitten

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i know
oh boy dont i know haha

trust me , even if its so very hard
remember its a phase
it will pass
 

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well i must saty strong thanks how long does it take did you ever feel like you were about to go back
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by wiseman
well i must saty strong thanks how long does it take did you ever feel like you were about to go back
was different for different ex's
how much my heart was involved
 

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a girl........

wise man,

I was in the same boat, about 6 months ago.

The 'girl of my dreams' dumped me, because, I would not marry her.

It will take some time, but, one day you will have her behind you.

Trust me.

cave dweller
 

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thanks guys it means a lot
 
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