"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Problem with Roomates

Hockey Playa

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I am currently having a problem with my roommates. I live in a student house with 5 guys including myself. There is 3 levels to the house. Me and my housemate upstairs, are very similar in our lifestyles, and both try our best to keep a cleanly house. The 2 who live in the basement are complete slobs. They're rooms a total dump, and they couldn't care a less what our common rooms look like. My housemate upstairs, is a bodybuilder, and acted partially as an authoritative figure, and kept the other guys in line somewhat. He is gone this semester for CO OP, which leaves me and the 3 slobs. Of course they took advantage of the situation, leaving they're garbage, plates, empty bottles, all over our common area. Im a person who likes a clean house, and cant stand picking up other peoples sh1t.
So far i am a month in, and have already got into countless fights with the other 3 about they're habits around the house. Its totally disrespectful and inconsiderate what they are doing. I have tried several different methods of dealing with this. I have lead by example, not leaving a single mess myself, and even cleaning up theirs. I have tried talking to them, which always ends up in an argument. I have tried reverse psychology. when it comes down to it, they are just lazy unmotivated human beings. This is destroying our friendship, and i still am locked into this lease for a another 16 months
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Skel

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Sorry but that is life. Living with room mates suck. Anyone with experience will tell you that. You sacrifice your personal space for cheaper rent. Suck it up or move or go crazy on that nga and kill him.
 

mpimpin

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I have a lot of problems with my roommates too. Only one out of the 4 of us is a slob though so it's not bad. Their three dogs always in the house chewing up Sh!t is what gets me.

You either look at getting out of your lease and see if its worth it or accept it.

Stay gone and hang out with other friends etc. and keep your own room clean.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Upside

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One or two roommates isn't that bad. When you go with more there are increased odds you get a douche of a person to live with.
 

WaterTiger

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Contact Student Housing. Tell them that you're concerened that your slooby room mates will draw mice & roaches in to the house and that is a HEALTH HAZARD! I'm sure those guys had to sign a lease just like you did. On that lease it probably says they have to keep the place clean. (My dorm room in college had an inspection every Friday)

If that fails, ask to transfer to another building.

if they won't move you...go to the pet store, buy some brown mice & turn the little buggers loose. Take pics of them eating at the trash left by others and take those to the Student Housing.

It has now elevated to a true "health hazard" (even though those mice are probably cleaner than your downstairs roomies!) They will have to call an exterminator & force the guys to clean up or get thrown out.
 
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