wakingup
Don Juan
I'm just coming off a divorce at 31 years old from a Cluster B (Histrionic and BiPolar, both diagnosed professionally from multiple doctors) wife of 1.5 years. The earlier comment about the pedestal she puts you on then blames you for not being perfect is 100% reality with some women. The very things she praised me for in the first 2 months were the same things she hated about me six years later. Specifically, these things were wanting to own a home, wanting children, having a close-knit family (parents and siblings), and continuing to be an accomplished musician. She fell in love with me because of these things, then left me because of these things (saying that they took more importance over her, which quite the opposite was true as I stopped playing music and saw my family less and stopped wanting kids with her).
I'm now left with fewer friends, a somewhat strained relationship with my family because of the various events/experiences I chose to miss out on on behalf of my ex-wife, and I'm just starting to play music again after 2 years of not playing. I'm also no closer to having a family (which is fine for me for now, but still an ultimate goal of mine).
All this to say, just be careful and if things seem too good to be true, they are. Watch her actions and make sure they jive with her statements.
I'm now left with fewer friends, a somewhat strained relationship with my family because of the various events/experiences I chose to miss out on on behalf of my ex-wife, and I'm just starting to play music again after 2 years of not playing. I'm also no closer to having a family (which is fine for me for now, but still an ultimate goal of mine).
All this to say, just be careful and if things seem too good to be true, they are. Watch her actions and make sure they jive with her statements.