You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Just text her "ok", then act like there is no problem when she calls. If she asks what you have been doing just say "I've been keeping busy". Your ignoring her major red flags like saying I love you and wanting to move in together after 3 weeks.
Most likely she is a high conflict person and trying to put her into her place is going to feed into her need for conflict. acting like you don't care is going to give you the position of power. Remember the person who cares less in the relationship has the power.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
G_Govan,G_Govan said:This isn't meant to be insulting, just an observation. The roles sound reversed, especially your reaction to the event she forgot about.
She sounds like the man in the driver's seat who's not too bothered by things and you sound like the emotional woman who's wondering where the relationship is going.
Not a good place to be.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
By NOT projecting an outcome dependent personality.DaddyLongShanks said:G_Govan,
You nailed this. How does a man flip this position to being back in the driver seat?