"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Problem with Interest and Continuing

Fly By Night

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So this one hb8 i went on a couple dates with does not really show signs that she is interested, but I offered to hang out later the next day. I doubt I want to continue chasing someone who doesn't even like me back, but then again I was kinda weird on the dates we've been on (it's just who I am). She keeps saying she doesn't mind hanging out again, but then on facebook she posts a not so encouraging status (sort of implied disappointment). I want to know if I should just go for another night out with her or start to let go.

PS I should have texted her earlier for a date so that might be why she posted that on fb, lol whoops.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I dont know but I have a hard time believing it's a HB8.... But anyhow...

Why are you even bothering with this? She showed so signs of attraction... why waste your time?

And dont act weird man... its a turnoff. Its way better to LET IT ALL OUT (actions of course NOT EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS) than keeping them inside and making you uncomfortable and thinking its weird.
 

Fly By Night

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Wait, how is it hard to believe? :confused:

But thanks for the advice, I decided to just let it go. I have pretty much just started asking girls on dates, so it should be for the best to just get more practice in.
 

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If you think she has low interest then chances are she has low interest, trust your guts on these issues because 90% of the time it's right. Distance yourself from her before you invest too much.
 
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