Problem with girlfriend and her facebook

[SirFratserlot]

Jesus Christ, if youre confused or have any doubt than something is not right.

 

[buzzin_frog]

Some people don't know what they are talking about!!

When a chick still has pictures of her ex.....that means she still has feelings for him!! My ex still has pictures of us on her account. Why is that? Because she is not over me yet!! That should be common sense....if she hated this dude....the pics would be off the phone and her facebook!!

This "relationship" is going to fail....because of these two reasons

1. She is keeping this "relationship" secret so she can keep her options open

2. You are becoming insecure of her and the other guys messaging her....You are wanting more out of this "relationship" than she is!!

My advice....treat her like a fvck buddy and nothing more until she proves to you that she wants this to be an exclusive relationship....otherwise you are going to get burned!! Actually, I wouldn't treat her as a girlfriend anyway

We when started going out she said she would rather not display our relationship on Facebook as. She didn't want anyone interfering n sh1t like that. I thought about it and agreed.

This is a red flag....She is keeping your relationship under wraps so she can keep her options open with the ex....also the other guys she is friends with!!

Every chick is excited to show off her new man to her friends/family on facebook...they want the attention of getting likes and having the "In A Relationship" title....she is keeping you a secret!! Does she have any pics of the two of you together on there?

I know two people who wanted to keep their "relationship" a secret on facebook....they did that to keep their options open!!

Well today I went through her photos and found some of her Ex still there ( haven't confronted her about this, don't know if I should) surely they should be gone no? I also remember her going through her phone and looking at photos with me then bam but into photos of her ex yet again and said ' I really need to delete some photos on here' but dunno of she did.

If she had no feelings for him they should be gone. Chicks are sentimental, if they still like a guy they won't delete his pictures because they want to remember him!! confronting her is a waste of time....she won't delete them...you will look insecure to her....that is why I sat to treat her as a fvck buddy and nothing more!!

I also know she has a ton of guys facebook messaging her daily and she asked if it bothered me and I told her no. Surely the sensible thing her to do what be to put 'in a relationship with me' to stop these pricks messaging her constant. Or to just delete the whole god dam facebook.

It does bother you because you wrote this thread!!

Why do you think she is keeping your "relationship" under wraps? Because she wants the other guys to send her messages!! She won't delete the facebook....she won't delete the tons of guys....she likes the attention!! treat her as a fvck buddy and NOT a girlfriend!!

Like I say I haven't mentioned anything yet but do I sound reasonable or am I overreacting ? Is just because off all the small things that add up n begin to make up stories in my head.

I don't care if it 2 weeks, 2 months, or 2 years!! This chick is not acting like a gf should in an exclusive relationship. She is keeping you a secret...still has the ex there....along with tons of guys....that should tell you something isn't right here dude!!

Treat her like a fvck buddy......don't expect anything more from her...start meeting new chicks to find someone better!!

I knew people who did the same thing....as soon as they confronted the person about it....the relationship was done!!

If you invest or expect more from her you are going to get burned!!

You are already insecure because of this.....and she knows it!!

 

[zinc4]

moral of the story...relax and stop playing pretend marriage...who gives a flying sh&t what she is doing behind your back...you should be consistently banging others on the side as well until/if you decide to get married

 

[Montague_Leach]

moral of the story...relax and stop playing pretend marriage...who gives a flying sh&t what she is doing behind your back...you should be consistently banging others on the side as well until/if you decide to get married

He should care if she is having sex with other men behind his back. You have a warped a sense of what a relationship is supposed to be.

 

[zinc4]

He should care if she is having sex with other men behind his back. You have a warped a sense of what a relationship is supposed to be.

Nope....i see relationships as what they are...utter BS.....

Also, ironically, if you don't care at all they will become too obsessed with you to desire someone else.

 

[Montague_Leach]

Nope....i see relationships as what they are...utter BS.....

Also, ironically, if you don't care at all they will become too obsessed with you to desire someone else.

Then you haven't been in a real relationship. Not sure why you would be fine with your woman having sex with other men. She would be gone if that was me.

 

[TheLoner]

How do you people have friends on facebook?

I don't really have any friends on facebook, no one responds to me. I'm a loser.

 

[zinc4]

Then you haven't been in a real relationship. Not sure why you would be fine with your woman having sex with other men. She would be gone if that was me.

I have been in 2 relatioships over 2 years long....and one over 3 they have never cheated despite me even telling one she could see other guys on the side if she wanted too. In my experience, if you don't care what they do, then they won't want to cheat.

 

[BeDJ]

I have been in 2 relatioships over 2 years long....and one over 3 they have never cheated despite me even telling one she could see other guys on the side if she wanted too. In my experience, if you don't care what they do, then they won't want to cheat.

No need to speak big and tall on this subject matter. Don't tell us you gave ex the speel to see other men. You are not at that level yet, cordoncordon was spot on about you.

 

[The North Dragon]

Well something needs to get done either confronting her, which is ***** option.

Could either just change mine n see what she has to say when she gets the invite to change hers.

Don't think we should split because everything else in the relationship is there, great sex, affection , do loads of stuff together, no sign of cheating, quite open with her phone , doesn't hide it or sheet like that and like I said all our family n friends know about us.

Was thinkin about doing a test. Either commenting on her page saying ' I love you' and see if she reciprocates. That will give me some sort of idea of where we r at

 

[The North Dragon]

So should I start distancing myself from her then. ? Stop texting her as much/seeing her and text other girls until it shifts her?

 

[SpazzAttackk]

Ive been in a relationship for a month now, her relationship status is set to married to her best friend (Her female best friend)

This doesnt bother me at all, but the amount of orbiters messaging her gets annoying. Some of them.. dare I say it, are physically more attractive than me, but just dont have the game. Plus shes with me for a reason right.

I wouldnt pay too much attention to the relationship status, but the pictures of the ex... yeah. Thats some highschool shvt, tell that bvtch to straighten up.

 

[Hydrak]

The reason why she's hiding the relationship is because, as another poster said, she wants guys to send her PMs.

Remember, girls feed on attention and having guys constantly confirming her sexual value is one of the best things in their lifes. That's why they keep orbiters. Your "girlfriend" is an AW and you should treat her accordingly.

She asked you if you were OK with guys messaging her because she wanted to test how you would respond, not because she actually valued your opinion.

My advice: Show less affection for her and don't pay attention to what she does on Facebook, if she wanted to cheat with you she would regardless if epic AFC guys were sending messages to her or not. If she actually wanted another guy she would just contact the dude and string him along to her bedroom. Act indifferent to her tests. The simplest way to be indifferent is to have an "I dont give a fvck" attitude. Just use her for sex.

 

[zinc4]

No need to speak big and tall on this subject matter. Don't tell us you gave ex the speel to see other men. You are not at that level yet, cordoncordon was spot on about you.

Yeah...because you obviously know me so well....WTH...

Just because you aren't where i am right now mentally and emotionally doesn't give you the right to talk out of your a$$ like you know me and falsely accuse me of lying.

Whatever "level" i am at...it is obviously a good bit higher than where you are currently at given what you are saying....

And Concodon is a white knight simp...he has nothing to do with this...if you identify with him so much then this speaks volumes about where you currently are at...

I get bored in relationships very easily and could care less what happens...

My current Gf.....i just told her 3 months ago she is welcome to see other guys on the side and she refuses......despite taking a month break since then...

I am not saying i am so advanced or anything like that...i still suck with social circle stuff and have never been good in work situations or back at school or classes of any sort...my natural invert comes out in those situations......i just sarge a lot on randoms and don't take relationships seriously and i don't get jealous....i find it a turn on when a woman in a relationship at least continues to present some sort of challenge and makes me wonder a little...and quite honestly, at this point in my life, i would prefer an open relationship on both sides...no pressure that way and no way to feel guilty...

I can't understand younger guys getting upset about the possibility of their "woman" doing something on the side...it aint like you are married..

 

[The North Dragon]

Starting backing off since last night and she can tell something's up. She kept telling me constantly last night she loved me because I withdraw attention/affection and still am.

Now we have just came to a stand still , she knows something's up and I am just waiting for her to pop the question ' what's wrong with you' . Supposed to have plans this weekend to.

 

[zinc4]

Starting backing off since last night and she can tell something's up. She kept telling me constantly last night she loved me because I withdraw attention/affection and still am.

Now we have just came to a stand still , she knows something's up and I am just waiting for her to pop the question ' what's wrong with you' . Supposed to have plans this weekend to.

Geez man...either dump her or continue banging her and meet as many women on the side as possible...no need to act hurt about it and give the silent treatment...that's what women do...

 

[The North Dragon]

Yeah that's some good adivce there.

It's not even that fact about the Ex's photos its more her not displaying our relationship status. Just feels like she's not wanting someone to know.

 

[The North Dragon]

Here is the answer to this, she is trying to "hide" your relationship from the EX and the other guys messaging her. She doesn't want them to know about your relationship. If she can't be proud to display her relationship with you, then you shouldn't be in one. She is hiding you for a reason. She still wants access to her EX and the other guys, which means she is not taking you seriously. She will be banging very soon in my opinion.



2 months? Then that is too fast, but still she is hiding him from the other guys and he should not take her seriously either.

She doesnt have her ex of facebook anyway. very rairly updates her status .

she tells me she brags to me about other people and when we bump into friends of her she will tell them that i am there new Bf.

i think its because she moved here, U.K, from South Africa and is a total different type of girl. i will admit is does seem shady and as though she is hiding it but fact is we get along great together .

 

[The North Dragon]

This is a red flag....She is keeping your relationship under wraps so she can keep her options open with the ex....also the other guys she is friends with!!


she finished with her ex tho?

 

[MikeOck]

I'm a little disappointed by most of the comments here. I didn't read them all, I have better things to do, but what I read screams , "I'm insecure!".

Stop critiquing her Facebook page. In fact, stop looking at it all together. You are showing weakness and insecurity. Have an attitude of indifference, a belief that it doesn't really matter what other guys do because you do it better and there are plenty of women out there eager to step in if she fails. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up for failure. Once you start telling her what she can post, or who she can talk to, you become weak in her eyes by showing you lack confidence.

If you don't trust her, walk away, otherwise just be you and let her prove herself to you. Be the prize that she wants to win, not the other way around.