problem = jelousy, tips advice disintegrates, high then low confidence, f*in annoying

[opentoadvice]

All right I've kind of got some annoying problems I would like to get rid of. I would be greatly obliged for any help. Anyways to start this post off, I have all ways been sort of quiet, but now I've really started talking to people hardcore (I've always had more trouble talking to girls). I've become a lot more confident in socializing with people. For example, to help with my girl problems I started talking to ugly chicks (on levels of 1 to 10: 1), then once I felt comfortable with them I'd move up to semi ugly (2), eventually to decent f***able girls (6). Through out the process, I've been trying to utilize the tips in the Don Juan Tips forum and have achieved great results;

but I have noticed that (PROBLEM 1) after I use the tips a couple of times (ex. senior fingers's weapons of mass seductions, or pook's be a man), it no longer works for me (it no longer has the same effect as it did the first time I used it) so I therefor find myself constantly coming back to this site for more tip info. It's PISSING ME OFF!!!!!

(PROBLEM 2) Lately I've had high amounts of confidence, but every now and then I'll wake up one morning and the confidence that I once had is now gone. It DRIVES ME CRAZY!!!! (how can I control this? (the sudden dissipation of my confidence))

(PROBLEM 3) JELOUSY is one thing I cannot stand. One minute I'll be all positive, high in self-esteem, then one of my friends will pop up and be like "hey I'm fu**in this hot chick," and my confidence level goes straight down the shi*er (mainly because I don't have a hot chick yet). How can I control my jelousy so it doesn't affect me so much?

(PROBLEM 4) How can I reverse a bad 1st impression?

(PROBLEM 5) I really want to get out into the world, meet people, gain knowledge, and party like f***in crazy. I'm having some trouble in getting connections on going to some good parties; my friends are not exactly the most sociable people in the world. I want to meet some cool people and get some good opportunities to talk it up with some really good looking chicks. WHATS THE BEST WAY TO GO ABOUT LOOKING FOR PARTIES?

THANKS a ton if you respond with some advice for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[WaRpEd]

Dude...i'm havin the same problems as you

 

[Sammo]

First of all i would like to thank you for posting a coherent and well thought out post, i will do my best to help you.

All right I've kind of got some annoying problems I would like to get rid of. I would be greatly obliged for any help. Anyways to start this post off, I have all ways been sort of quiet, but now I've really started talking to people hardcore (I've always had more trouble talking to girls). I've become a lot more confident in socializing with people. For example, to help with my girl problems I started talking to ugly chicks (on levels of 1 to 10: 1), then once I felt comfortable with them I'd move up to semi ugly (2), eventually to decent f***able girls (6). Through out the process, I've been trying to utilize the tips in the Don Juan Tips forum and have achieved great results;

Nice work! Sounds like you are coming along nicely!

but I have noticed that (PROBLEM 1) after I use the tips a couple of times (ex. senior fingers's weapons of mass seductions, or pook's be a man), it no longer works for me (it no longer has the same effect as it did the first time I used it) so I therefor find myself constantly coming back to this site for more tip info. It's PISSING ME OFF!!!!!

You have to elaborate on this kind of thing, what exactly was it that didnt work after you used it a couple of times? Pooks be a man isnt a technique its a mindset and way of life so you shouldnt have this problem that post. Adaptability is a big part of it also, learn how to read body language and adjust to peoples moods.

(PROBLEM 2) Lately I've had high amounts of confidence, but every now and then I'll wake up one morning and the confidence that I once had is now gone. It DRIVES ME CRAZY!!!! (how can I control this? (the sudden dissipation of my confidence))

It's mainly because your confidence is fake, its not authentic. This confidence is driven off past success's so when you dont show success for a while your insecurity will take over. To fix that you have to start improving yourself and feel what authentic confidence is like. Go to the gym and start looking good, start going running because it will release endorphins and make you feel better about life and eat healthier. Theres some things to start you off, if you still have these problems and you have done the things mentioned above then send a PM my way.

(PROBLEM 3) JELOUSY is one thing I cannot stand. One minute I'll be all positive, high in self-esteem, then one of my friends will pop up and be like "hey I'm fu**in this hot chick," and my confidence level goes straight down the shi*er (mainly because I don't have a hot chick yet). How can I control my jelousy so it doesn't affect me so much?

Realise that people should be jealous of YOU! you are becoming a better person every single day while they dont improve, you are going to become something great and bang many HB's once you have put in the effort. It also wouldnt hurt to CONGRATULATE your friend and be HAPPY for him that he is enjoying life.

(PROBLEM 4) How can I reverse a bad 1st impression?

Go back in time and make a good one, seriously mate that a dumb question. Just do what you have been taught and maybe they will forget about the 1st impression, i did it with all the girls at my school so im sure you can do it too!

(PROBLEM 5) I really want to get out into the world, meet people, gain knowledge, and party like f***in crazy. I'm having some trouble in getting connections on going to some good parties; my friends are not exactly the most sociable people in the world. I want to meet some cool people and get some good opportunities to talk it up with some really good looking chicks. WHATS THE BEST WAY TO GO ABOUT LOOKING FOR PARTIES?

Be friendly to everyone!! Especially the 'popular kids' because they know were all the cool parties are. Just talk to everyone and expand your social horizons.

THANKS a ton if you respond with some advice for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No problem champ.

 

[opentoadvice]

Thanks a ton Sammo

 

[PlayerinTraining]

You are thinking irrationally...

I'll comment on problem three, because once you solve this little puzzle you have locked yourself into, the confidence problem will be solved.

You wrote

(PROBLEM 3) JELOUSY is one thing I cannot stand. One minute I'll be all positive, high in self-esteem, then one of my friends will pop up and be like "hey I'm fu**in this hot chick," and my confidence level goes straight down the shi*er (mainly because I don't have a hot chick yet). How can I control my jelousy so it doesn't affect me so much?

Here is what is probably going through your mind, and you don't even know it, because it is so obvious:

"Damn, this guy has a hot chick, but I don't. I must be some wuss, or even worse, GAY! :0 Because I don't have a chick right now, it must be because I'm not _insert whatever masculine image here_ And that is AWFUL!"

I'd like to know: what in hell does your friend's success have to do with your personal worth? How does your friend's success make you look bad?

What kind of "friend" gets upset when he sees his friends succeed?

You are making 2 mistakes: 1) Judging your personal worth based on the opinion of a WOMAN--the most fickle, irrational creature on the planet! 2) Evaluating the success of others as a sign of your personal failure.

Keep thinking like this, and you are bound to feel miserable.