Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Problem Getting Numbers

Yuriy777

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I know this sounds like a ***** problem, but for some reason recently I’ve had a problem getting that phone number (the close if you will). I can carry that 10 min conversation, Kino, the works... It's just for some reason I can't seem to get the balls to close.

Ex. at the mall yesterday I gave up 2 opportunities

1. Cashier at a candle store (7-7.5/10), flirted with her for 5 min she asked me for my number (store thing to advertise), I joked back and forth how "she was coming onto me" and apon leaving I said if you want that's my cell you can call me on that sometime, and we can get together. (I know I’m an idiot)

2. Bath and body store, also a cashier (7.5/10), flirted with her for 10 min, did same thing (see a pattern here (damn defense mechanism)). (I need to get over this sh!t lol)

Anyone have any advice for me? For some reason I’m still AFC when it comes to asking for that number. Anything you guys can suggest for me getting over it?
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MrHarris

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"Hey, you know what, I've really enjoyed talking to you and I had some more to say on this subject" Pull out your cell and hand it to her and continue with; "why don't you put your number in my cell and I will call you later to finish our conversation"

You can also add at the beginning "you seem like a really nice person that I would like to get to know" or something along that line.

end of problem
 

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Originally posted by Yuriy777
I know this sounds like a ***** problem, but for some reason recently I’ve had a problem getting that phone number (the close if you will). I can carry that 10 min conversation, Kino, the works... It's just for some reason I can't seem to get the balls to close.

Ex. at the mall yesterday I gave up 2 opportunities

1. Cashier at a candle store (7-7.5/10), flirted with her for 5 min she asked me for my number (store thing to advertise), I joked back and forth how "she was coming onto me" and apon leaving I said if you want that's my cell you can call me on that sometime, and we can get together. (I know I’m an idiot)

2. Bath and body store, also a cashier (7.5/10), flirted with her for 10 min, did same thing (see a pattern here (damn defense mechanism)). (I need to get over this sh!t lol)

Anyone have any advice for me? For some reason I’m still AFC when it comes to asking for that number. Anything you guys can suggest for me getting over it?
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You want a quick fix but the root of your problem is you are just not being a MAN!!!

You are acting like a little boy who feels he need permission to "get" what he wants.

Not with just this but with every situation you face in life, grab you balls, man-up and just ask. Stop acting like a girl with the coy crap, Man are bold and daring you dig!!!!
 

Yuriy777

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You want a quick fix but the root of your problem is you are just not being a MAN!!!

You are acting like a little boy who feels he need permission to "get" what he wants.

Not with just this but with every situation you face in life, grab you balls, man-up and just ask. Stop acting like a girl with the coy crap, Man are bold and daring you dig!!!!
lol good advice, but I don't have any problems putting my foot down and getting what I want, only for some reason problem with the phone close. if I'm at a club or something can still get the "let's get out of here" close just number close is somewhat difficult for me.

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Pull out your cell and hand it to her and continue with; "why don't you put your number in my cell and I will call you later to finish our conversation"
i do like this piece of advise, as soon as I test this bad boy out i'll post with success rate
 

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Originally posted by Yuriy777
lol good advice, but I don't have any problems putting my foot down and getting what I want, only for some reason problem with the phone close. if I'm at a club or something can still get the "let's get out of here" close just number close is somewhat difficult for me.
What this means is that you are not 100% clear that you are grown. What that means is as a grown a man you can do whatever the hell you want to. Get rid of the guilt feeling, or I need permission feeling most of us have a hard time shaking from our youth.

There is NOTHING WRONG with asking for her number. Realize that you have the right to do whatever the hell you want to (nothing criminally insane of course) as an adult so if you want to ask her for number there is nothing wrong with it. If you want to ask her back to your crib or her crib there is nothing wrong with that. Hell if you decide to be an ******* for the night that's your perogative.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yuriy777 - You sound like a really cool and funny guy around women. By that you can also hold good conversations. For being such a cool ass guy don't you think other women deserve to get in on this fun time too? Right, so do these chicks a favor and tell them they should give you their number.
 

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I love the way you put that lol.
that may be the boost I need thx
 
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