"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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problem...confused...

paymon

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I am in a bit of a confused point right now...my ex-girlfriend and I who have been broken up for a long time now (like 3 or something years b/c she cheated on me) now and we are sorta distant friends now. Lately i've been trying to get her interested in me, and we talked on the phone one time and she did not show much interest as far as the phoen was concerned (she was with her "buddies"). Then this weekend i was outside of this restaurant/club for a friend of mine (who is her roomate as well)'s birthday and she saw me and we greeted and i basically did not give her any attention. Then later on that night i was at the bar chillen with some friends and she came and appoached me to dance, and so i went with her but i just stood there and she asked me why i was not dancing and i told her i did not want to dance with her, then she gave me this look (a mix of dissappointment/disbelief) then i told her when she comes down to austin (where i go to school) we will go to a club. Then i went back to ignoring her and talking to her best friend (who is distantly related to me). Then like 5-10 minutes later she comes back and starts being really flirty (she is a flirt to begin with), then she keeps holding my hand and stuff and putting her hand on my leg and stuff, but i dont really show much attention then we start having some small talk, then she goes off and dances with this guy and apperantly (from a 3rd partys view) she kept on staring at me while she was dancing with him.

-Just wondering what the hell is going on, and whether or not its possible to get back into her pants...(its more of a pride thing than feelings for me)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Alphathree

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PRIDE?!!?!?!

If you want PRIDE, stop pursuring someone who cheated on you and who is clearly gaming you for fun.

Get some self-respect...
 

smoke city

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amen, alphathree.
i admit this is a waste of space, but it must be emphasized.



paymon, what the HELL are you THINKING?
 
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