"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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(probably final) Update on LTR

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I can agree with both iq and InLaws about their respective points. I've seen that deep down need for women to feel that you could protect them--even, without fail, from the toughest ball-breaking women I've met who never had need for someone to protect them (they could and would pull that trigger on thier own, thank you very much...)

And, like InLaws, I resented that burden that was placed on me in the past. Maybe he'll take issue with me interpreting "resentment' coming from his post, but that's the feeling I struggled with for so long with exactly those thoughts he used in his post.

Now--I dunno--it doesn't bother me anymore. I don't recall ever specifically addressing it (happened sometime after a year here), but I got over it. You be yourself (you know what I mean--"be a man" type of be yourself) and you can handle what comes your way, and she knows that--and can feel like you can "protect" her, which really means that you handle yourself.

An AFC can't handle himself, let alone her, let alone what comes his way...

To both iqqi and InLaws, I would say "yes."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Getting side tracked here, but running along an extreme case of what InLaws kinda points out, I even ran into a girl or two (I won't call these specific cases 'women') who would set up a situation where there would be conflict between you and some other guy--a conflict over her--just to see if you would step in and protect her. You could feel the game set-up and manipulation! It's a real fvcked up test, IMO--which, I think Transactional Analysis would label as the "how about you and him fight" game.

Needless to say, they got next'd 15 seconds into the test (game). That shyt I never did get over.
 

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MetalFortress said:
Bump, to show those who did not see it years ago, that no matter how much outer game you build, it doesn't matter if you're not truly working on becoming a better person. The outer game will crumble away and reveal what's inside.

Well played sir. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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