"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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1. Find girls who are looking to play with a guy
-If you're a newbie, you should be concentrating on finding girls who are looking to meet a guy, not seducing girls who have no intention of meeting a guy. Don't get me wrong, attracting girls in all sorts of moods is one of the main goals of a DJ, but thats like trying to beat a harder level in a video game before beating the first/easier level. Ain't nothing wrong with that and you'll might be able to pull it off anyways. But if you can't, go an master the easiest one first.

How can you tell if shes looking to interact with a guy? In my experience, there is no way to tell from appearance, and I've been looking for patterns for a while. The only way to find out is just to use any opener, even the simplest: "hi", "hey", "hows it going", "how are you", "any random situational comment". If she looks up, makes eye contact, smiles, asks a question back, and/or just gives off an invitational vibe, she's looking to meet a guy.

2. Concentrate on improving the 'next step' in your game. If you've never opened before, concentrate on doing an opening. If you haven't gotten a number before, concentrate on getting a number. Etc. There is nothing wrong with having the whole thing planned out, but it might be easier just to go one step at a time.

To sum it up, you don't have to 'know everything' to start approaching a being successful. You just need to be your self and a 'hi, how are you'.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How do you go about finding these girls? Clubs? Online? Social Circle? Is it really to the point where traditional dating, done by some, is just out the window, and people prefer random flings?

Is it really as easy saying hi how are you?
 
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Best way to meet girls is through friends, but there are girls everywhere, parks, cafe's ect.

As for it being easy, think of it this way. If you were looking for a nice girl but where on a task (getting shirts are target) and weren't even thinking about girls, and then a decent looking girl says 'hi, how are you?', would you turn her down.

Girls and guys do not think similarly on many things, but on a simple approach, girls and guys do think very similarly.

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look at this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P2XdnnHwX4
 
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"I didn't know you invited all these other people, I thought it was going to be just you and me."

Tucker Max to random girl in a bar.
 
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Getting a life usually works great :)

As in new hobbies that force you to interact with different people are normally good like dance classes etc :)

You learn to dance (salsa tango etc etc) and meet new people make firends meet their friends etc etc
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ItsOnNow said:
Is it really as easy saying hi how are you?
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Um, it is that easy. I went to Walmart buying some stuff for school and I approached a chick a few years older than me (Around HB7). I had no intention of dating her or ever seeing her again, but I needed to work on my conversation skills. Talked for about a good 5-10 minutes before I excused myself and that was that.

A simple hello can open many doors.
 
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