"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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1. Find girls who are looking to play with a guy
-If you're a newbie, you should be concentrating on finding girls who are looking to meet a guy, not seducing girls who have no intention of meeting a guy. Don't get me wrong, attracting girls in all sorts of moods is one of the main goals of a DJ, but thats like trying to beat a harder level in a video game before beating the first/easier level. Ain't nothing wrong with that and you'll might be able to pull it off anyways. But if you can't, go an master the easiest one first.

How can you tell if shes looking to interact with a guy? In my experience, there is no way to tell from appearance, and I've been looking for patterns for a while. The only way to find out is just to use any opener, even the simplest: "hi", "hey", "hows it going", "how are you", "any random situational comment". If she looks up, makes eye contact, smiles, asks a question back, and/or just gives off an invitational vibe, she's looking to meet a guy.

2. Concentrate on improving the 'next step' in your game. If you've never opened before, concentrate on doing an opening. If you haven't gotten a number before, concentrate on getting a number. Etc. There is nothing wrong with having the whole thing planned out, but it might be easier just to go one step at a time.

To sum it up, you don't have to 'know everything' to start approaching a being successful. You just need to be your self and a 'hi, how are you'.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you go about finding these girls? Clubs? Online? Social Circle? Is it really to the point where traditional dating, done by some, is just out the window, and people prefer random flings?

Is it really as easy saying hi how are you?
 
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Best way to meet girls is through friends, but there are girls everywhere, parks, cafe's ect.

As for it being easy, think of it this way. If you were looking for a nice girl but where on a task (getting shirts are target) and weren't even thinking about girls, and then a decent looking girl says 'hi, how are you?', would you turn her down.

Girls and guys do not think similarly on many things, but on a simple approach, girls and guys do think very similarly.

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look at this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6P2XdnnHwX4
 
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"I didn't know you invited all these other people, I thought it was going to be just you and me."

Tucker Max to random girl in a bar.
 
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Getting a life usually works great :)

As in new hobbies that force you to interact with different people are normally good like dance classes etc :)

You learn to dance (salsa tango etc etc) and meet new people make firends meet their friends etc etc
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ItsOnNow said:
Is it really as easy saying hi how are you?
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Um, it is that easy. I went to Walmart buying some stuff for school and I approached a chick a few years older than me (Around HB7). I had no intention of dating her or ever seeing her again, but I needed to work on my conversation skills. Talked for about a good 5-10 minutes before I excused myself and that was that.

A simple hello can open many doors.
 
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