"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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prime example of hypergamy, read and learn

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Some of you may remember I cold turkey ended by 1-year long LTR with a girl that went to Alaska for the summer.

Details here:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=196156

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Fast forward. She came back two weeks ago. And of course I didn't call.. But today, I really had an intense dream about her, and I wanted to give it a shot.
Shot her an e-mail saying:

I still have some of your belongings. What do you want me to do with them?

( Some of you guys may blame me for this... But I am human, I slip-up from time to time as well.. I felt bad immediately after sending this, but bear with me.)

She calls me. We set up a date. I will drop her sh!t right away. Ended up going to her house and banging her. It didn't help that she gained +15 pounds in 3 months, good grief!... Still gave me a rock-star BJ and that did the trick. That's the sweet success part.

Now let's come to the hard-truth: (Of course this doesn't hurt me even a bit because I am practically in a relationship with the Boston intern I mentioned above)

She found a 37-y-old park ranger in Alaska, and she's going to live with this guy right after her finals, in Fairbanks. She already slept with him and another dude in Alaska, claiming she did all that after we broke up.

I looked her in the eye and told her: Nancy I don't give a damn! :) As she saw me really comfortable, she opened up more and more .. Telling me all about her "adventures" in Alaska.

I told her we will see each other again, as FWB (as Fvck Buddies) rather but I don't know if I'll ever do it again. She was fatter, she stunk somewhat and overall she just didn't seem like the same girl. I guess I needed to know that I could still have her.

My dopamine levels are up (at least the Boston-chick is skeletor-skinny and she's coming next Wednesday) and I am happy.

She also thanked me for cutting the relationship so swiftly, she said she could never do it like that! Don Juan points +

It all turned out better for me, and for her. She should seek out her life, she's young. And if she wants to have kids, and this guy will provide that for her, more power to them.

My point is, this story could have been a sad SoSuave story of a guy who ended up being cheated, humiliated and left for dead.

But it all depends on how you look at things. I am glad this girl doesn't hate me and I don't hate her. I am glad women multi-date. It makes us be able to multi-date as well.

I know she's not normal, but who cares, honestly? I am busy writing my first paper to IEEE-TED. I have a life and priorities ;P

PS: This is another thank you note to all my seniors and juniors from whom I have learned so much over the years,

Cheers,,
BM :rock:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think you have handled this all pretty well, mised the initial thread so went back and read it (VU's podcast wouldnt load though grrr!)

one could argue the getting back in touch with her was AFC but like you say no one is perfect and lets face it, if we all got a no strings bang and a rocking BJ out of it, we'd all be contacting exs!

those dreams are b!tches though arent they!
 

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she didn't smell initially Braddie, she got sweaty after we did some exercise :p

She's not as skinny anymore and I give it to that. It wasn't unbearable.

Thanks, betheman, I know I should probably have NC'ed for good, but I messed up. I won't fall back into a routine or settle for something I don't want though.

That's for sure.
 

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Dont think you messed up at all, far from it. the NC rule is a bit of an absolute around here and generally Id subscibe to it, only do it if you are in a good frame and can walk away, you did. job done
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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