Egoist
Master Don Juan
by the way, its kind of a screwed up subject anyways, becaust a true egoist is only worried about feeding his own ego by only following what he believes and never validates himself by using others to inflate his ego..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Pride, Arrogance And Ego – The Path To Misery
- Thread starter Marlimus
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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The points the original poster presented are very valid. Thanks.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.For instance, last night I went out and talked to a few girls at a party. One girl asked me(upon hearing my accent), "where are you from?". I replied that I was from Mars, with a I don't really care attitude. She took major offense at my sarcasm and I later saw her talking bad about me to another girl! And another girl after first displaying a major interest, was rude to me b/c of some off-hand "****y" comment. Maybe they are too sensitive as well, but damn....what is wrong with me?
Pride is a killer but as i posted earlier is a good thing. The right girl will accept your pride. The insecure ones will not. How many worthwhile girls are there though that frequent the bar scene or are in college (and not average - just having fun)? Not a whole lot. Many of these ARE already in relationships. Some aren't, but only because of their pride!
You get the "I bet he thinks he's really it" thing going on when you say something sarcastic and a good-looking successful guy that carrys himself well. It's only with the insecure ones though. These are the same types that aren't relationship worthy anyway.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
bump. There are a lot more people who need to read this.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pride in self keeps us selfish and self-centered disabling us from enjoying or helping anyone else. Pride in race or culture makes many prejudiced. nations, marriages, families, churches, businesses, lives, etc. have been wrecked by pride
Many people have problems getting the humanism they were brought up with out of their hearts. Humanism teaches that pride is a virtue, most religions teach that it is a sin.
Many people have problems getting the humanism they were brought up with out of their hearts. Humanism teaches that pride is a virtue, most religions teach that it is a sin.
Blatant truth
Don Juan
Everyone on this site needs to read and understand this. A lot of times it isn't you, but the woman's insecurity because of the level you are on. In that case, don't worry too much about pride.Originally posted by tmpgstx
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.
Pride is a killer but as i posted earlier is a good thing. The right girl will accept your pride. The insecure ones will not. How many worthwhile girls are there though that frequent the bar scene or are in college (and not average - just having fun)? Not a whole lot. Many of these ARE already in relationships. Some aren't, but only because of their pride!
You get the "I bet he thinks he's really it" thing going on when you say something sarcastic and a good-looking successful guy that carrys himself well. It's only with the insecure ones though. These are the same types that aren't relationship worthy anyway.
I get that alot, I'm not the best looking guy, but I take care of myself and dress decent...girls with LSE always accuse me of being ****y without even getting to know me, while girls who are more secure will get along just fine with me.
all those things apply to me, to the letter...to the gotdamn letter.
I was at a get together and some chick there was like "hes a jerk isnt he?" to her friend. I was like "***** im the nicest guy you will ever meet". jk i didnt say b1tch but say the rest and she was saying it to the alpha female who i was exchanging sarcastic c n f with in a battle of wits. She had a silver tongue but wasnt very attractive to me.
She recognized my alpha status just as wolves do in the wilds of the frozen north.
Anyway i duno what this has to do with this post but i felt like telling u.
I was at a get together and some chick there was like "hes a jerk isnt he?" to her friend. I was like "***** im the nicest guy you will ever meet". jk i didnt say b1tch but say the rest and she was saying it to the alpha female who i was exchanging sarcastic c n f with in a battle of wits. She had a silver tongue but wasnt very attractive to me.
She recognized my alpha status just as wolves do in the wilds of the frozen north.
Anyway i duno what this has to do with this post but i felt like telling u.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
It sounds like Blatant, Julian and i have had some similar experiences with LSE girls. Here are just a few of mine:
Scenerio 1:
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Friend and i are out. He's talking with girl and i'm just standing there beside them. She hits him on shoulder and i jokingly say:
Me: "Don't lower yourself to her level by hitting her back"
The rest of convo is like this:
Her: "Do you have a girlfriend?"
Me: "No, not at the present"
Her" "That's why"
Me: "Why is that?"
Her: "Because you're a jerk"
Keep in mind, this is all i said! Can you believe it?
Scenerio 2:
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Friend and i are sitting at a table at an after wedding dance with two girls. The one isn't saying much at all, and her friend is doing most of the talking. I say something to the one that isn't talking much (keep in mind, do not know her and never said a word to her yet). For some reason the topic was hair or what a woman does to look good.
Me: "You have nice eyebrows and they look good. I bet you comb them too."
She doesn't respond but leaves the table. A little later a guy is telling me how she didn't like what i said (she wanted him to kick my ass). I told him she'll have to deal with it and if he wanted to get his ass kicked for her, then that would be up to him (i had enough already). He wanted me to apologize and i wouldn't so he left. Did i a say anything that bad to warrent such action or behavior on her part?
Scenerio 3:
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Girl at club standing on steps. I'm on my way up those steps and she swings around and her purse slams into me knocking a bit off balance. I say "Dam, what do you got in that thing?".
She responds with a very angry look and says "wouldn't you like to know".
I get this kind of crap fairly often. A girl who knows my friend told him she didn't like me and thought i was an *******. I've never even spoken to her and only see her every once and awhile and don't know her at all!
Scenerio 1:
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Friend and i are out. He's talking with girl and i'm just standing there beside them. She hits him on shoulder and i jokingly say:
Me: "Don't lower yourself to her level by hitting her back"
The rest of convo is like this:
Her: "Do you have a girlfriend?"
Me: "No, not at the present"
Her" "That's why"
Me: "Why is that?"
Her: "Because you're a jerk"
Keep in mind, this is all i said! Can you believe it?
Scenerio 2:
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Friend and i are sitting at a table at an after wedding dance with two girls. The one isn't saying much at all, and her friend is doing most of the talking. I say something to the one that isn't talking much (keep in mind, do not know her and never said a word to her yet). For some reason the topic was hair or what a woman does to look good.
Me: "You have nice eyebrows and they look good. I bet you comb them too."
She doesn't respond but leaves the table. A little later a guy is telling me how she didn't like what i said (she wanted him to kick my ass). I told him she'll have to deal with it and if he wanted to get his ass kicked for her, then that would be up to him (i had enough already). He wanted me to apologize and i wouldn't so he left. Did i a say anything that bad to warrent such action or behavior on her part?
Scenerio 3:
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Girl at club standing on steps. I'm on my way up those steps and she swings around and her purse slams into me knocking a bit off balance. I say "Dam, what do you got in that thing?".
She responds with a very angry look and says "wouldn't you like to know".
I get this kind of crap fairly often. A girl who knows my friend told him she didn't like me and thought i was an *******. I've never even spoken to her and only see her every once and awhile and don't know her at all!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.