Egoist
Master Don Juan
by the way, its kind of a screwed up subject anyways, becaust a true egoist is only worried about feeding his own ego by only following what he believes and never validates himself by using others to inflate his ego..
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Pride, Arrogance And Ego – The Path To Misery
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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The points the original poster presented are very valid. Thanks.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.For instance, last night I went out and talked to a few girls at a party. One girl asked me(upon hearing my accent), "where are you from?". I replied that I was from Mars, with a I don't really care attitude. She took major offense at my sarcasm and I later saw her talking bad about me to another girl! And another girl after first displaying a major interest, was rude to me b/c of some off-hand "****y" comment. Maybe they are too sensitive as well, but damn....what is wrong with me?
Pride is a killer but as i posted earlier is a good thing. The right girl will accept your pride. The insecure ones will not. How many worthwhile girls are there though that frequent the bar scene or are in college (and not average - just having fun)? Not a whole lot. Many of these ARE already in relationships. Some aren't, but only because of their pride!
You get the "I bet he thinks he's really it" thing going on when you say something sarcastic and a good-looking successful guy that carrys himself well. It's only with the insecure ones though. These are the same types that aren't relationship worthy anyway.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
bump. There are a lot more people who need to read this.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Pride in self keeps us selfish and self-centered disabling us from enjoying or helping anyone else. Pride in race or culture makes many prejudiced. nations, marriages, families, churches, businesses, lives, etc. have been wrecked by pride
Many people have problems getting the humanism they were brought up with out of their hearts. Humanism teaches that pride is a virtue, most religions teach that it is a sin.
Many people have problems getting the humanism they were brought up with out of their hearts. Humanism teaches that pride is a virtue, most religions teach that it is a sin.
Blatant truth
Don Juan
Everyone on this site needs to read and understand this. A lot of times it isn't you, but the woman's insecurity because of the level you are on. In that case, don't worry too much about pride.Originally posted by tmpgstx
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.
Pride is a killer but as i posted earlier is a good thing. The right girl will accept your pride. The insecure ones will not. How many worthwhile girls are there though that frequent the bar scene or are in college (and not average - just having fun)? Not a whole lot. Many of these ARE already in relationships. Some aren't, but only because of their pride!
You get the "I bet he thinks he's really it" thing going on when you say something sarcastic and a good-looking successful guy that carrys himself well. It's only with the insecure ones though. These are the same types that aren't relationship worthy anyway.
I get that alot, I'm not the best looking guy, but I take care of myself and dress decent...girls with LSE always accuse me of being ****y without even getting to know me, while girls who are more secure will get along just fine with me.
all those things apply to me, to the letter...to the gotdamn letter.
I was at a get together and some chick there was like "hes a jerk isnt he?" to her friend. I was like "***** im the nicest guy you will ever meet". jk i didnt say b1tch but say the rest and she was saying it to the alpha female who i was exchanging sarcastic c n f with in a battle of wits. She had a silver tongue but wasnt very attractive to me.
She recognized my alpha status just as wolves do in the wilds of the frozen north.
Anyway i duno what this has to do with this post but i felt like telling u.
I was at a get together and some chick there was like "hes a jerk isnt he?" to her friend. I was like "***** im the nicest guy you will ever meet". jk i didnt say b1tch but say the rest and she was saying it to the alpha female who i was exchanging sarcastic c n f with in a battle of wits. She had a silver tongue but wasnt very attractive to me.
She recognized my alpha status just as wolves do in the wilds of the frozen north.
Anyway i duno what this has to do with this post but i felt like telling u.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
It sounds like Blatant, Julian and i have had some similar experiences with LSE girls. Here are just a few of mine:
Scenerio 1:
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Friend and i are out. He's talking with girl and i'm just standing there beside them. She hits him on shoulder and i jokingly say:
Me: "Don't lower yourself to her level by hitting her back"
The rest of convo is like this:
Her: "Do you have a girlfriend?"
Me: "No, not at the present"
Her" "That's why"
Me: "Why is that?"
Her: "Because you're a jerk"
Keep in mind, this is all i said! Can you believe it?
Scenerio 2:
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Friend and i are sitting at a table at an after wedding dance with two girls. The one isn't saying much at all, and her friend is doing most of the talking. I say something to the one that isn't talking much (keep in mind, do not know her and never said a word to her yet). For some reason the topic was hair or what a woman does to look good.
Me: "You have nice eyebrows and they look good. I bet you comb them too."
She doesn't respond but leaves the table. A little later a guy is telling me how she didn't like what i said (she wanted him to kick my ass). I told him she'll have to deal with it and if he wanted to get his ass kicked for her, then that would be up to him (i had enough already). He wanted me to apologize and i wouldn't so he left. Did i a say anything that bad to warrent such action or behavior on her part?
Scenerio 3:
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Girl at club standing on steps. I'm on my way up those steps and she swings around and her purse slams into me knocking a bit off balance. I say "Dam, what do you got in that thing?".
She responds with a very angry look and says "wouldn't you like to know".
I get this kind of crap fairly often. A girl who knows my friend told him she didn't like me and thought i was an *******. I've never even spoken to her and only see her every once and awhile and don't know her at all!
Scenerio 1:
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Friend and i are out. He's talking with girl and i'm just standing there beside them. She hits him on shoulder and i jokingly say:
Me: "Don't lower yourself to her level by hitting her back"
The rest of convo is like this:
Her: "Do you have a girlfriend?"
Me: "No, not at the present"
Her" "That's why"
Me: "Why is that?"
Her: "Because you're a jerk"
Keep in mind, this is all i said! Can you believe it?
Scenerio 2:
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Friend and i are sitting at a table at an after wedding dance with two girls. The one isn't saying much at all, and her friend is doing most of the talking. I say something to the one that isn't talking much (keep in mind, do not know her and never said a word to her yet). For some reason the topic was hair or what a woman does to look good.
Me: "You have nice eyebrows and they look good. I bet you comb them too."
She doesn't respond but leaves the table. A little later a guy is telling me how she didn't like what i said (she wanted him to kick my ass). I told him she'll have to deal with it and if he wanted to get his ass kicked for her, then that would be up to him (i had enough already). He wanted me to apologize and i wouldn't so he left. Did i a say anything that bad to warrent such action or behavior on her part?
Scenerio 3:
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Girl at club standing on steps. I'm on my way up those steps and she swings around and her purse slams into me knocking a bit off balance. I say "Dam, what do you got in that thing?".
She responds with a very angry look and says "wouldn't you like to know".
I get this kind of crap fairly often. A girl who knows my friend told him she didn't like me and thought i was an *******. I've never even spoken to her and only see her every once and awhile and don't know her at all!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.