Egoist
Master Don Juan
by the way, its kind of a screwed up subject anyways, becaust a true egoist is only worried about feeding his own ego by only following what he believes and never validates himself by using others to inflate his ego..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.For instance, last night I went out and talked to a few girls at a party. One girl asked me(upon hearing my accent), "where are you from?". I replied that I was from Mars, with a I don't really care attitude. She took major offense at my sarcasm and I later saw her talking bad about me to another girl! And another girl after first displaying a major interest, was rude to me b/c of some off-hand "****y" comment. Maybe they are too sensitive as well, but damn....what is wrong with me?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Everyone on this site needs to read and understand this. A lot of times it isn't you, but the woman's insecurity because of the level you are on. In that case, don't worry too much about pride.Originally posted by tmpgstx
If you're considerably attractive, then saying anything remotely sarcastic works against you with girls that aren't secure with themselves. They assume you're full of yourself just based on your looks to begin with, and then when you add something a little sarcastic, its blown out of proportion.
Pride is a killer but as i posted earlier is a good thing. The right girl will accept your pride. The insecure ones will not. How many worthwhile girls are there though that frequent the bar scene or are in college (and not average - just having fun)? Not a whole lot. Many of these ARE already in relationships. Some aren't, but only because of their pride!
You get the "I bet he thinks he's really it" thing going on when you say something sarcastic and a good-looking successful guy that carrys himself well. It's only with the insecure ones though. These are the same types that aren't relationship worthy anyway.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.