"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Pretty sure, but I want another opinion

KEddie

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This girl I know recently broke up with her boyfriend, and I've always thought that she was a good catch. We get along pretty well, an we have a good friendship (please don't speak of that friend zone jiber jabber). Anyway, we've always been really flirty, but I think that's mostly because she is just really comfortable around me and with herself.

Lately, we've been hanging out more with other firends too sometimes. We used to only see each other maybe once a week/ every other week, and now we see each other about 3-5 times a weeks.

So far she has straddled me twice play fighting, we've gone for a few walks to get food etc., and the other night while at a friends place we cuddled on the couch and watched a movie.

Another thing that she's been doing is every once in a while I'll say something stupid and she'll hit me, not hard or anything, but not exactly soft either.

Anyway, her typical type is like a skater dude, or a punky type of guy, I am not either, I'm just a regular guy with no affiliations to your standard groups.

Now for my question, is she displaying intrest or just feeling more at ease with me?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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aftershock

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It looks like interest. Only one way to find out - he who hesitates, masturbates - next time you're alone with her cut the crap and go for the kiss.

Beware of being the rebound guy though - how long was she with the other guy for, how did they break up?

Don't believe all that "typical guy" lark, by the way.
 

isotope

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how long have you known her? is she s good friend and you dont want to make it akward? because otherwise JUST DO IT, GRAB YOUR BAWLS !! LOL

i would just kiss her next time you two get physical (be smooth though, for gods sake)

and pay close attention to her reaction. you'll have your answer
 

MidnightResistance

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This is going to go badly.

You've been labelled FRIEND already.

Game Over man...Game Over.:down:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cheat_LBJ

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Feeling more at ease.

In her mind, likely, you're a good friend who is helping to a fill a void that was left when she and her boyfriend broke up. You're providing the emotional support she needs (through friendship) and occupying the time that she would've otherwise spent with her boyfriend.

You can try to "Grab your balls and go for the kiss" like some advocate, but the best thing you'll get out of it is a short stint as her "rebound guy", the likely thing you'll get is an awkward moment (either when she rebuffs your kiss attempt or afterwards when she realizes that she's just sent the wrong signal to a friend), and the worst thing you'll get is a friend that's mad at you for thinking you could move in on her when she's vulnerable.
 
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