hey guys, is pretending to have a moment of "weakness" good? I know about the alpha men rules whereby to be a king and masculine at all times. But I saw the movie “wedding crashers” and the guys always seem to have a moment of “weakness”in front of the ladies and the ladies just seem to ache for them. I also read somewhere that this is to fully exploit the women’s motherly instinct. Is that feasible?
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Sounds like some afc crap to me. You shouldn't be learning about women from what you read or see on tv. You should be going out and seeing what works for yourself.
In my experience there is such a thing as conveying too much value. If you seem to have everything then you can potentially intimidate a girl by overselling. It helps to have the instincts to see when this is happening and tone yourself down with a little self deprecating humor or even some genuine display of vulnerability. The key is to match her level of energy/self-worth so it feels like you both are in the saem league.
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Let me put it to you this way: Has your mother tried to bang you?kelv said:hey guys, is pretending to have a moment of "weakness" good? I know about the alpha men rules whereby to be a king and masculine at all times. But I saw the movie “wedding crashers” and the guys always seem to have a moment of “weakness”in front of the ladies and the ladies just seem to ache for them. I also read somewhere that this is to fully exploit the women’s motherly instinct. Is that feasible?
omkara
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Roissy post on vulnerability game:
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/01/29/vulnerability-game/
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/01/29/vulnerability-game/
# Don’t reveal more than one vulnerability about yourself. You may be tempted to do this when you see the positive reaction you get as your date’s eyes light up, but the persuasive confessional power of Soft Underbelly Game is quickly lost with repeated use. “Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention I’m afraid of toy dogs and old ladies, too!” “Um, OK, that’s… strange. Listen, I’ve gotta go. [whispering to herself] beta.”
# Don’t run vulnerability game when you first meet a girl. Trying to capture a girl’s interest by sheepishly owning up to a secret fear is known as forced rapport. Emotional connection is effective only after sexy dominance has been established. This is one reason why rock stars can get away with crooning love songs like emo betas without suffering a hit to their sexual market value.
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powpow
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sharing a vulnerability increases trust. even if you make up your vulnerability or weak spot, just the fact that you said it conveys that your are self aware and confident. odds are that the girl will respond some time or later and confess one of her weaknesses. its a real trust builder man.
sharing multiple vulnerabilities makes you seem kind like a loser. keep it to one. even if you have to make it up.
sharing multiple vulnerabilities makes you seem kind like a loser. keep it to one. even if you have to make it up.
I'm in the Mood
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Alpha men don't pretend. If you're going to have a "moment of weakness" to see if it works, you'd better make it for real. I've never seen the movie though, so I'm not really sure what you mean by "moment of weakness." Good luck though!kelv said:hey guys, is pretending to have a moment of "weakness" good? I know about the alpha men rules whereby to be a king and masculine at all times. But I saw the movie “wedding crashers” and the guys always seem to have a moment of “weakness”in front of the ladies and the ladies just seem to ache for them. I also read somewhere that this is to fully exploit the women’s motherly instinct. Is that feasible?