Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I was discussing the importance of penis size and other factors with a gf and, without showing her my estimates or hinting that attitude was my choice for top factor, got her to rate them in a similar way. Bear in mind that I have a massive penis so she was under no pressure to under-score penis size for my benefit. I also told her to add any factors I'd forgotten. Her answers are as follows.Originally posted by Nighthawk
Also remember - long and thin, goes straight in, short and thick does the trick.
Luckily mine is both long AND thick, but I reckon size is only 25% of what's important to be a good lover, with stamina at 20%, hand skills at 10%, tongue skills at 25% and DOMINANT/SEXY ATTITUDE the most important at 30%.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ain't that the truth. The sad thing is when I was 18 and horny as a billy goat I couldn't get laid to save my life. Now that I'm 31, more mature/confident, I can get laid pretty easy but I'm nowhere near as horny.Cruise said:Yeah... you get to a point when your jimmy doesn't respond to just any chick anymore... not like high school/college days... it needs more stimulation... in this case emotional connection and that 'chemistry'.
2 cents.