Pressure and problems caused by my small penis

[CDogg]

Ok, here it is, my penis is small, 4½inches. My last girlfriend didn't complain about it, she was really really beautiful , and i felt great pressure when i was about to make love to her, and my penis wont go hard!! it's hard during the foreplay but went soft really fast when i was about to put it inside her I know its cus i was too nervous, and it caused that i wasn't too excited to have sex with her, and i turned her down, eventually she broke up with me....

I'm 25 years old now, I feel alot of pressure, I cant relax for sex, and i'm afraid that it will happend with another girl too... Please help me! Tell me what to do!

 

[TheDarkSaint]

There are some non-medical solutions.

You need to practice relaxing. In doing so, you'll accept who you are and what you are capable of. Sounds like you were not comfortable with that girl. It might also help to realize that length isn't all it's cracked up to be.

Also, try to date small women. This is often how porn stars look so freaking huge. The girl is tiny. This will be a big boost to your confidance.

Try this for foreplay. You want to take the head of your willy and slowly rub it around her button. Do this until she is almost screaming at you to put it in.

When you do, go forward a fraction of an inch, then stop. Hold, then pull out just a fraction. Each time you go in, go in just a bit deeper, but go in slower.

By going that slow, you don't have to feel the pressure to perform and she is begging for your manhood. If that won't get rid of nerves, I'm not sure what will.

 

[speedo_meme]

I'm not well endowed either, and I've never had a girl laugh, make fun, or not get off because of it. It's in your head, man. I guarantee you, YOU worry alot more about it than any girl does, except for the occasional superslvt. Enjoy sex for yourself, dude. To tell you the truth, until you do it yourself and build up your confidence, this is going to be in the back of your head. I suggest getting it over with. My ex gf loved my d1ck, and I know for a fact she'd been with a guy before me that had a c0ck double my size. Fact of the matter is, it's really not that big of a deal.

P.S. If it helps, work out and make the rest of your body look appealing.

 

[KarmaSutra]

I used to suffer from some of the same problems. Not the size mind you, The problem I had was maintaining an erection for more than a few minutes.

Couple things I realized is that I was waaay too comfortable with masturbation and wasn't getting my penis accustomed to the touch from different women. I stopped masturbating.

Secondly,after that issue was conquered I turned my attention to maintaining the erection I had. Through a much more refined diet, yoga in the morning, hitting the gym regularly and Levitra. I am a god in bed.

Be proactive in your own search for a cure. Some of it is physiological, some of it is psychological.

 

[legolas]

Gunwitch had something to say about it:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=75837
If the post above doesn't really fit you, look at point C

You also may want to change your sexual technique to a more grinding motion instead of in and out and do some research on teasing women.

As long as you can give her pleasure, she'll be okay. A bigger penis is not neccesarily better for her, its just a different feeling.

 

[El MonoLoco]

Its not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean......



I can't say I have your problem but the quote should help....

I can't keep my c*ck down...damn thing has a mind of its own.....

 

[MightyMate]

You can drink a little % before sex. Should rwlax You.

 

[Colossus]

Unfortunately there isnt much you can do about size. You have to play the hand you were dealt, if you know what I mean. You MIGHT be able to have some mild success with stretching exercises...your penis is essentially composed of connective tissue and cavernous erectile bodies that may respond to repetitive stress (stretching), as would most other tissues.

I had the exact same problem with "stage-fright" when I first got laid. Stop masturbating. Get comfortable with your girl and being naked around her. If you watch porn, stop that too. You just have to get over that initial anxiety. Soon you'll have a hard on for like 3 hours and she'll be like "oh my gosh!! You animal!!!"

 

[TheTrimReaper]

CDogg,

You are looking at sex in male terms....too mechanically focused.

Women do like the c0ck, but they want more from the experience than just your manhood.

I have a bigger-than-average c0ck, but word has spread from the women I've been with about what a good lover I am, not the size of my unit.

If you think d1ck size is so important, check this out. The second weekend I was with my GF, we were messing around on my couch. I didn't bang her. Just got on top, smelled her hair and neck for what seemed like forever. Then I kissed her slowly and delicately. Before I knew it, she couldn't take it anymore before she pulled me close and started grinding on me. She let me know last week that I made her get off that night, and my c0ck never left my jeans.

Focus on being a good lover and word gets out. In fact, my girlfriend was told by my ex (they were friends about nine years ago) that I'm a great lover. You are a little small, but I'm sure you could turn the roughest woman out there into a puddle if you do it right.

 

[CoolRunning]

Alright bro, I have a small **** too. Bigger than yours, but still small. Just wondering, in the locker room are you pretty self conscious, or do you just kind of go with the flow like the other guys?

 

[CDogg]

Originally posted by CoolRunning
Alright bro, I have a small **** too. Bigger than yours, but still small. Just wondering, in the locker room are you pretty self conscious, or do you just kind of go with the flow like the other guys?

I'm very self conscious in the locker room

 

[Warlord]

Originally posted by TheTrimReaper
CDogg,

You are looking at sex in male terms....too mechanically focused.

Women do like the c0ck, but they want more from the experience than just your manhood.

I have a bigger-than-average c0ck, but word has spread from the women I've been with about what a good lover I am, not the size of my unit.

If you think d1ck size is so important, check this out. The second weekend I was with my GF, we were messing around on my couch. I didn't bang her. Just got on top, smelled her hair and neck for what seemed like forever. Then I kissed her slowly and delicately. Before I knew it, she couldn't take it anymore before she pulled me close and started grinding on me. She let me know last week that I made her get off that night, and my c0ck never left my jeans.

Focus on being a good lover and word gets out. In fact, my girlfriend was told by my ex (they were friends about nine years ago) that I'm a great lover. You are a little small, but I'm sure you could turn the roughest woman out there into a puddle if you do it right.

"I'm so great, I just wanted to tell everyone in this thread that You Too can be as great as me"

 

[Bible_Belt]

A woman is more likely concerned that a new man might be too big, not too small. Size concern is a double-edged sword.

 

[reyalp]

a 45yr old man who worked for me once told me:

"If you make her orgasm 3 or 4 times before you put it in, then how big you are or how long you last are the furthest things from her mind."

 

[Skel]

You watch too much porn. If you think that 6 or 7 inches is average you would be wrong. 5 inches is about average so your only half an inch from average. Then again is it 4.5 inches after or before erect?

 

[Kaine]

It looks like you can get aroused, but you are been sabotaged by your own feelings of pressure. This is not an unusual problem, just annoying as it spirals terribly.


I highly recommend using viagra or something similar, it will help you retain your woody after you are aroused. It will help you get your confidence back and once you have been "psychological repaired" you will find you won't need to use it anymore. Consider it a crutch until you are back on your own two feet.


In regards to what nature gave you in regards to the little guy, the best you can do is study the techniques of becoming a great lover. If you are a great lover, then you should know there is many ways to stimulate a women. Focus on foreplay then hitting the right switchs mental and physical which will drive her crazy. I recommend reading materials written by David Shade.


A good women will see the value for the sum that you are and not the just the hair on your back nor the porsche at the back.


Best of luck.


Kaine

 

[Stavrogin]

If you're 4.5 inches flaccid, you're probably above average.

A lot of guys seem worried about their weenie size, but I wonder if some guys are concerned about ball size, too. I definitely wouldn't recommend stretching exercises for your balls.

As for porn stars, I would like to think their size is just a camera trick, but let's face it: the average male porn star is butt-ugly. He's in pornos for one reason and one reason only: he's hung like a brontosaurus.

 

[CDogg]

"If you make her orgasm 3 or 4 times before you put it in, then how big you are or how long you last are the furthest things from her mind." [/B]

This is actually very helpful thank you!

 

[Nighthawk]

Also remember - long and thin, goes straight in, short and thick does the trick.

Luckily mine is both long AND thick, but I reckon size is only 25% of what's important to be a good lover, with stamina at 20%, hand skills at 10%, tongue skills at 25% and DOMINANT/SEXY ATTITUDE the most important at 30%.

 

[sparky1981]

Bud i know how you feel. I have the same probs as you. Even the size issue. But my girl thinks i'm one of the best shes ever had now. I've been with several girls and had the same prob wit all but I seem to have worked out something that works for me and i will share it with you. Hope it helps.

The big deal for me is alwyays how i'm going to perform for a girl. I want to be good and like it. But i get real nervous when first with a chick. Fornately it doesn't seem to happen to much now. That ofton caused it to soft when it got down to the real deal. When it happens i tell the girl whats going on and Most girls seem to understand and when they do i just roll back off them and talk a little with them about random stuff or/and hit her up wit some more foreplay. Anything that takes your mind of it. thats normally enough now and if it isn't we drop the whole session and try a new one later. The unfinished buisness is likely to make them want you more next time to since they could not get u the first time. So don't worry bout this either. Once you do the deed the first time wit her this should care of any anxiety issues