"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Preparing for a first date

WrEcKLeSS2000

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Hey all,


It has been a long time since I've been out on a date. Its always ended with me getting friend zoned. I'm looking to change that.

I got this chicks number from a dating site and I'm planning on calling her tonight to set up a date for the weekend.

I'm going to tell her that we are going to meet up for ice cream.

Here are my questions:

Is it better to arrange a night time date or day time? Keep in mind this is the first date. Hopefully she looks good in person lol. You never know with online dating. From her pictures, I would say she is about a 7.5 with a good body.

How do I create/build attraction so she doesn't friend zone me?

Also, how do I know if I should go in for a kiss?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jurry

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Best way to prepare for a first date:

A. Dont spend any amount of time preparing (mentally or physically) for it other than getting dressed and going to the date. She is lucky to get a date with you, you have other things going on in your life, you dont need her or her approval.

If none of the above are accurate to your situation (i.e. you're a total beta pvssy with no options), then you mimic the above by

B. Setting up 3 or 4 other dates so you actually DO have options and other things to do. This way you will not be overwhelmed mentally by the prospect of one beautiful lady and tranform into a supplicating tampon (friendzone).

It is of course possible for supplicating tampons to get laid, however it will generally come at greater and greater risk to your well-being, as she realizes how much power she has over you and gradually crushes your soul.
 

mangotot

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Screw Ice cream. Ask her to come round your house instead. The excuse is you got an amazing view through your window and she should see it. When she arrives, relax in your room with her and take it from there.

You can have ice cream at home. It will be cheaper as well.
 

Comatozed

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I think asking a giirl you are yet to meet in person round to your place is a long shot tbh
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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VladPatton

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Tell her you wanna go back to your "condominium" to try on a few different condom brands you're undecided about. Kind of like a costume fitting if you will. Insist you value her opinion in regards to quality, material, color, and of course fit. Within hours, the fun will ensue and sex will be on her mind.

No female can resist the condominium condom-fitting pre-copulation play.
 

MartinARMT

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For a first date I like to do something I find fun and enjoyable. You appear high value when having fun.
 
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