"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Prepare for war (Mind dump again.)

Purefilth

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‘If It is Peace you seek, then prepare for war.’ – Vegetius

This, Gentlemen – is a quote to remember.

You want to settle down with a girl, marry her and have a family? Prepare for the bloodiest battle that you shall ever see then. It is a fight that many may never see the end of – Myself included.

Its not a battle that you need to fight with someone else though – it’s a battle that you must have WITHIN YOURSELF.

Whats up? – You Don’t get it?

Ok to help explain – Here’s MY Battle:

Ive come to the realisation that LTR’s are not for me. I’m just not built like that. Why? I ve had extremely pretty, non slvtty girls in LTRs with me – TWICE. I couldn’t cope. Dealing with one person on a daily basis – no matter how cute, funny Hawt or wild in the sack they are – eventually I just get bored.

Just as you get bored you realise its because you have nothing in common with this person, and you had been keeping them around out of convenience only. And once the realisation has struck another kicks in.

“I have to get rid of her”

And how can you do such a thing without breaking her heart? The poor girls been trying to nudge Ideas about marriage into conversation. :crackup: NaNaNaNanevergonnahappen!

You Cant. After this time and she’s set her heart on you. You gamed her, you worked at keeping her, You have her completely! And now you’re bored. A$$hole, right?

Maybe not – Could be I knew ages beforehand that they weren’t for me. That I should’ve broken it off. But there was enough AFC in me to overthink and make up insecurities. Insecurities like –

“What if I never find another girl”

“What if nobody else will want me”:crackup:

Yeah right!

Bvllsh!t, I know, but these are little things that develop when you only have the one girl around and as a man you need to step up and face these tricks that your mind plays on you. Stare them down. Don’t be too afraid to dump a girl early on – The less time you waste on a girl the better for both parties involved.

Allow yourself to have fun with a girl because its fun, not just fun because you’re with a girl.

If It isn’t fun normally with the lads – that’s your first clue that you’re supplicating already. That’s why we advocate here on dates .
“Do Something YOU want to do ”
If nobody got that before – that’s a reason why.





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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You get bored of anything eventually if you do it long enough. That's simply how we function.

Even if you meet your 100% perfect match , given enough time , you will start craving diversity again.
 

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Why not do something new you both can enjoy? These sound like the kind of issues you could communicate. Is there something wrong with telling your woman that your bored?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DragonBlood said:
Why not do something new you both can enjoy? These sound like the kind of issues you could communicate. Is there something wrong with telling your woman that your bored?
In an LTR - Yeah, Try it buddy, see if its worth the headache.
 
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