"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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cw92

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Pretty much excatly what the title says...I feel horrible. This is my girlfriend of 3 weeks, pretty much before this site she ignored me, but after applying simple things her IL went WAY up. I'd say she is a HB7. Anyway, before this incident we had only kissed...and a small bit of touching..in fact we barely hug when we see eachother. Anyway...we went to a movie...Valkyrie or somehting, there were 2 other people in there.

I have never had a gf before, in fact she was my first kiss. We were watching it and something came over me...and I started kissing her..then feeling her up...and I placed her hand on my d!ck. Next thing I know my **** is out..and she starts sucking it. Now i have had no sexual experience besides my hand..so I was done in about 2 mins. I was in such shock, that by the time it finnaly hit me i had ejeculated into her mouth. Needless to say the date was very akward after that. She wasnt to distant..and laughed at my jokes.

But yeah how would you all proceed if you were in my situation?

Anyone else have trouble lasting? I just feel so frustrated and disapointed in myself.

I made sure i didnt mention it or apologize..(not sure if i should have), I kind of just shrugged it off. But i felt like a loser/ass for not telling her because no one really wants that in their mouth, at least a 16 yr old girl.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Following_of_Me

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If she'll suck your ****, she'll swallow your ***. You should warn her, but it's better for her to swallow than make a mess.

But for your other problem, the next time you'll probably last longer. Just don't concentrate so much on cumming or not cumming. Massage her shoulders, and relax.
 

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Well, she's got to learn the ropes somewhere. You really should let her know you're gonna cvm though. Consider yourself lucky, its hard for a lot of us to get off from a BJ that quick. You should have complimented her on her talents, and made her want to do it more. When it comes to sex, if your about to cvm, slow down, or pull out for a sec, if you need to. Make sure she cvms at least a couple times, then have her tell you when she is about to ***. When she gives the word, go like a jackhammer, and cvm with her. That is the KEY, right there. Or, if you do let go early, do it again as soon as you can, and you will last longer.
 

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You got horny while watching Valkyrie? A movie about a disheartened German officer who wanted to show the world that not all Germans are hardcore racist murdering Nazis by assassinating Hitler and forming a new German government who was going to make peace with the rest of the world including Jews?

Dude....that is just too funny. :crackup:

Anyway, sometimes if I feel that I'm going to finish too soon then I start focusing on her. That means that if she is blowing me, then I go down on her which sorta slows down the excitement for me. If I'm already inside her, then I either slow down or if I'm already going slow & deep, then I take it out and go down on her or start fingering her. Also, changing positions helps lot of times too.

Keep at it though. In time, you'll get used to the sensation and you'll start lasting longer.
 

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Well..honestly Ive never had any type of sexual experience so it was just a blur...but I really wanted to tell her, but it was just to much to soon. I just hope she isnt pissed, because it was wrong of me.

It was like i was messing around with her, but as soon as I realized what was going on i ejeculated immediately, there was no build-up.

Thanks for the advice, this was a really embarassing experience.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Leporello

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The Bat said:
You got horny while watching Valkyrie? A movie about a disheartened German officer who wanted to show the world that not all Germans are hardcore racist murdering Nazis by assassinating Hitler and forming a new German government who was going to make peace with the rest of the world including Jews?
You were making out during SCHINDLER'S LIST??
 

It's-Me

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cw92 said:
Well..honestly Ive never had any type of sexual experience so it was just a blur...but I really wanted to tell her, but it was just to much to soon. I just hope she isnt pissed, because it was wrong of me.

It was like i was messing around with her, but as soon as I realized what was going on i ejeculated immediately, there was no build-up.

Thanks for the advice, this was a really embarassing experience.
Well she's sucking your d1ck, she had to expect that you would cvm.

Embarrassing, are you fvcking serious? Your a lucky bastard for getting a ******* that fast.
 

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Just tell her what an amazing job she did and I hope you took her out to a nice cafe or something after for dessert and coffee. You have to reward behavior like that and NEVER make her think it was the least bit 'icky' or you'll mess her up for the rest of us.

Woops. Did I say that last part out loud? Sorry.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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cw, you need some serious deprogramming , dude.

You have some pretty messed up beliefs about sex.


Have you read the Book of Pook?
also look up On Being a Man, and Deep Inner Game.

Why dont you start with that, and then get back to us?
 

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horaholic said:
Well, she's got to learn the ropes somewhere. You really should let her know you're gonna cvm though. Consider yourself lucky, its hard for a lot of us to get off from a BJ that quick. You should have complimented her on her talents, and made her want to do it more. When it comes to sex, if your about to cvm, slow down, or pull out for a sec, if you need to. Make sure she cvms at least a couple times, then have her tell you when she is about to ***. When she gives the word, go like a jackhammer, and cvm with her. That is the KEY, right there. Or, if you do let go early, do it again as soon as you can, and you will last longer.
I was having thoughts along the same line. It's very rare for me to get off from a bj, infact I'm starting to hate it cos it hurts. I hate when I feel the girl
s teeth and when she grips tightly and strokes without enough lubrication (natural or artificial).
 

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No such thing as too early. :p

You said she was less distant and laughing at your jokes? Isn't that a good thing?

Anyway, you're 16 or so and so is she. These things happen to everyone. Talk to her about it so she understands. If she likes you, you can practice with her by stopping and starting over and over again until you get control. I wish I had that at 16!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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nice dude, i praise you lol...u played the innocent than went in on her ass..nice
 

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In a situation like that 2 minutes is perfect since you wont be having sex. I wish i was able to *** in 2 minutes :( i have the opposite problem, lack of cummage.
 

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epicwinner said:
hahaha this thread is gold! btw how old are u?
Im 16

To Fairshake:

Yeah i want to because it was wrong, but i dont really know how to approach her.


and to Interceptor, what excatly do I need to be deprogrammed from? Im pretty sure everyone here would agree what cumming into a girls mouth without telling her..in that situation was messed up.

And yes, Ive read the Bible and MANY articles and threads, which is the reason why I was able to begin a relationship with her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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