Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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premarital screening questions and how to answer them (cheat sheet needed)

budisudaryo

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Hi guys,

Any of you willing to shed some light on how to answer premarital screening questions? Questions like:

Why are you interested in marrying at this time?
What is your concept of marriage?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
What is the role of the husband?
What is your relationship with your family? (when it's actually bad)
etc.

You know, serious stuff. So I don't think sly, DJ style answers would suffice here. Also, these Q's could also come from her parents. Thanks a lot.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sodbuster

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Are these Your's or her's? What do YOU want is a better question. I think YOU need to be asking/listening well. Marriage is MORE dangerous to the MAN.....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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budisudaryo

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scrouds said:
eharmony? Why?
huh? I don't get you, sorry.

sodbuster said:
Are these Your's or her's? What do YOU want is a better question. I think YOU need to be asking/listening well. Marriage is MORE dangerous to the MAN.....
this is hers. I just imagine a woman would ask some of these questions when she's ready to take it to the next/final step. and of course i don't want to fail these questions.
 

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Be more worried about IF she fails YOUR'S. It's NOT about meeting some woman's expectations like society has brainwashed you to believe. SHE has to be worthy of Marriage to YOU. You think marriage is the "brass ring" but many times it turns into steel handcuffs.

As a DIVORCED man, I can tell you Marriage is like a hot bath.... after awhile it isn't so hot. Pick wisely
 

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If you owe that much explanation to anyone, anyone, you're fücked right off the bat. Take her, drop her off at the parent's house, and tell them to grill her, not you, and get the fück out of there. Insane.
 
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